Recent content by Anne

When I started my "secondary" relationship with my boyfriend, I got pregnant by my husband a few months later. For me, it was clear from the beginning that my boyfriend would be another important person in my son´s life, so I asked him to be his godfather. My son is one-year old now, and we...

Thanks for your replies and stories! I think I´m also always been poly, I just didn`t permit myself to be it. I had learned that being "a good person" meant to be faithful to your partner. But I often fell in love with people when I was in a relationship, trying to get through these situations...

How does Polyamory start? Hey you all, sometimes I read on this board that people are dating, using the internet to meet new partners, searching for a secondary relationship...I have a questions about this. To make me understand, I´d like to tell you that I´m in a polymorous relationship...

Hey you all, I think getting one´s needs met is an important part of any relationship. The difference to selfish behavior is the result: Is everyone happier or less happy after talking about those needs? For example, if I tell my partner: "I´m feeling weak at the moment and I would like to...

For us three, my husband is my man and my (.........) is my "second man", but at least I say that with a twinkle, because emotionally he´s not secondary to me. With other people, I often use other terms, as Grounded Spirit has put it - it depends on the audience. Some people I´m not so closely...

I agree that ideals don´t exist, but I understand that this thread is about irrational dreaming, which is great and necessary for the human being, isn´t it? So, this is what I dream about: My two boys fall in love which each other. We all live together in a place with a lot of space for all...

Hi and welcome, as I read your post, I can understand your frustration. And as you tell it, you tried to get involved offering her an massge and stuff, didn´t you? I would try to talk to him again, seriously, and explain the problems You have. And maybe it could be helpful to talk to her alone...

Thanks Ariakas!!

Hi idealist, thanks for the warm welcome! Yes, the two guys like each other. I think they have some benefit from being so different. Is there a "hierarchy" in our relationships? And was one of them your lover first and then the other came up? Best wishes Anne

This is really beautiful, and close to what I think. I´d like to know if there is a word for jealousy in all languages.

Hi, I´m really happy about having found this forum. I like the way people talk to each other here, it´s a very respectfull and positive one. Now let me introduce myself - I´m married, mother of a one-year-old boy, and I have a "secondary man", as we use to call it, I understand that here in...