Recent content by Aridan

I just wanted to add my support here for you. It sounds like a rotten thing to go through. The whole thing about the way he approached sex with you makes me feel sad and angry for you as it underlines an ongoing issue with people having sex they don't want, and not being heard when they say no...

Hi OnceAndFuture, I've just caught myself up on your blog here, and my heart really has gone out to you and The Signal with all the growing pains you two are going through. I feel especially empathetic around the migraines, because bad headaches run in my family, and I had one just the other...

I'm curious as to what you mean by this. Is it that you feel like you need time to yourself when she's gone, or that your wife is less inclined to be intimate with just you after her girlfriend leaves? I found this interesting, as I can say that I find myself fatigued after a weekend around my...

I'm so happy that you are in a better place than when you started this thread. I know you are still in the beginnings of all this, and the fact that you can enjoy this part of the journey without the worry and stress weighing you down is really great. I think you're right in saying that there...

So it's been a few days since I've posted in here. I've been struggling with my depression this winter, and feeling isolated and disconnected. I recently discovered the work of Brené Brown, and it's been transcendental for me. I relate to almost everything she has written about vulnerability...

Hello and Welcome newdcgirl, from another newbie on this board. I hope you find the help and support that you are seeking. I have found poly can be confusing and complicated at times, and in other ways it can be the best experience of your life.

It's a beautiful thing to read examples where people are happy and supportive of each other in this way. I'm very happy for you!

I just want to throw my support out here for you. I know its hard, but you can do it. I second KC43's question, don't you deserve to be happy? Be strong and love yourself enough to be ok with walking away from a toxic situation.

When you mesh well with someone and things just seem to be going so well it can sometimes be hard to communicate as openly as you need to. At least for me it was challenging to bring up hard topics when all I wanted to do was revel in the NRE. I will admit I'm still not good at it, but I realize...

@Leetah Thanks for sharing. How did you ultimately deal with how you felt? Did it resolve itself? I had made a pledge and concerted effort this month to focus on positive energy, but I feel that it’s been somewhat of a bust. I’ve gone through the motions, but my heart is just not in it. I feel...

Ah well, as much fun as it might be to dissect my comments and interpret my words in a super literal way, I don't want to hijack this thread. It's probably best to focus on the OP and her concerns. I appreciate your feedback though!

You have said a couple times that you are unlucky in love. That resonates with me. I have been unlucky in love in general, and unlucky in poly love as well. But I will point out that maybe we both have been lucky enough in love because we are both loved by our spouses and still with them after...

It's been a new mind set for me to think I don't need my partner's agreement for everything that I want to do or that I actually do. I spend a lot of time wanting my partners to be happy and my behavior reflects that. I wouldn't presume to say what is normal or perfectly acceptable for anyone...

So I have been struggling with a meh day today. Honestly, the entire holiday season was a terrible drag on me this year for some reason. I think all the ups and downs of the extended relationship has been an emotional drain. On top of this I have struggled all my life with depression. For the...

I thought I posted this yesterday, but guess not. So here it is. So, here is an example of what I struggle with. I worry, I overanalyze, I have trust issues. Being a LDR much of the communication we have is based on email and texting. Very rarely do we have calls, and other than two or three...