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I really appreciate you week thought it advice here, thank you

Thanks, Bobbi. I actually have a partner currently who has been ridiculously supportive of me throughout this. They are having somewhat similar experiences with their nesting partner. I am concerned about the co-parenting somewhat, because it feels false and disingenuous to me. It's not the...

*Update* I had a talk with her and got some clarity on hope. Not surprisingly, she did the same thing she tends to do, which is to be clear yet confusing. Essentially, she told me it's over, but also that while she had no thought towards the matter, she can imagine a fantasy where we run into...

I agree. I'm going to have a talk with her about it, so hope is removed, if she's not intending on it being there. What I want outside the relationship is the same as it was before the break-up. I want to heal from my issues so I can be my best self and be the best I can for my family. That's...

I'm working on that, but in many ways she hasn't been clear at all, even using qualifying statements like, "right now." as in, "All I can offer you is friendship right now," and things of that nature. But then I think that's what stress going to lessen the blow. I'm becoming pretty aware that...

I I think it does too, along with my ADHD symptoms and the fact that the last two years have been hard. I honestly don't know, since she isn't interested in that conversation. But I appreciate your empathy on the matter.

Absolutely. While I've taken a break from it financially, I've been in therapy for a while. I'm chasing therapists because the one I was with didn't seem to be able to help with things I was asking for help with. You got that correct.

I'm suggesting the difficulties of raising her now will be different in a couple of years. I'm not suggesting raising a kid will ever be simple, but that with school and developing independence, we will find ourselves less burnt out by it all. I'm not entirely sure, as she won't tell me much...

I don't know if I want to be friends. I mean, I do, honestly. She's the best friend I've ever had. But my friendship is entirely saturated in the love I have for her. I don't think I can be friends alone, not without being in unrequited love for the rest of our lives, and I honestly don't think...

I would love that, but she isn't interested. The marriage is over, that is certain. I just don't want us to be. The marriage I get, it's patriarchal and too close to our religious families ties, and therefore, childhood trauma and things. But I want the relationship back. It was having trouble...

So far we are co-parenting well. I'm finding cohabitating difficult because it's so familiar and different. But I think I'd find moving out more difficult. It's not what I want for our child, so I think I'll find a way to make it work. I'm so fed up with being sad. But I get it. Stbx? I will...

I completely agree with this. In the context I used it, I do mean something new by "get her back," as I don't want what we had. I do believe we are capable of maintaining a trial life we used to have when we were united and a true team. I think we can get that "back," but in a new relationship...

After all the stress of the last few months of last year, my wife told me she was ending our marriage at the start of this year, three days in, to be precise. I am heartbroken. I know I had so much uncertainty about how things were going, but I was so determined for things to work out. I...

I think that's right. We need to sort out consent. I've tried discussing it with her, but it's tricky to say, or for someone to accept. She did not see it that way. She thought she did have it. I mean, I cut her hair for her the night before, and things. I've given her mixed messages implicitly...

We should be hearing from a therapist on Monday. I think you're correct. I'm having trouble articulating how I feel and what I want. I feel pressured to understand all my emotions quickly. I think trying to avoid engaging with these things until we can get therapy is best. We're both exhausted...