We discussed her having a relationship without my knowledge, and that was a major part of what took me a while to understand.
As for the other part of my question, thanks for your advice.
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My wife and I have been married for about five years, and a few months ago my wife came out to me as poly. It took me about a month to adjust and accept that she wanted/had a boyfriend. I had the typical questions and feelings (inadequacy, jealousy, etc.) but we worked...