Recent content by Avy

Another point to remember is how we as humans respond to small cues and conditioned responses. For example, if you have a habit of going to a busy bar and checking people out together, but then one night you go to the same place but want very focused attention from your partner, it's going to be...

(Yep, just validating it from a guy's perspective)

Yes to the first question, no to the second (which sounds kind of like a leading question to me).

(Disclaimer: Newbie here with zero polyamory experience). When I read your posts, I'm not hearing jealousy; I'm hearing envy. He's getting to have more fun than you. Example 1: He had more fun with the girl, while you got bored of her (less fun). Example 2: He only has to work "4 days" at the...

Sure, it's nice to admire youth and beauty, but sexy is about attitude and action. The confidence in the actions you describe is *hot* (regardless of whether a person has a "mommy body"). :)

We're already beginning to have more productive communication, thanks to the info I've been directed to here. One of the "side-effects" of polyamory and similar non-monogamous situations that I've noticed people talking about is that (a) there's less room for coasting/BS in your relationships...

I'm reading the first one on my kindle right now ;)

Agreed. I think that's the biggest issue. I want to learn more ways of being supportive/reassuring without being untrue to myself. I hope we can grow, but know that it's not 100% up to me. Thanks for the book rec's. :)

Greetings everyone. I've been reading through the forums, and would like to start a [very common] thread. I'm beginning to explore poly, and would like to use this thread to welcome advice for starting out. Personal Background: I'm a 32-year-old, very sexual, straight, married male, who grew...