Recent content by Azzy

Ah, sorry, I wasn't sure what the rules were in this forum about potentially upsetting content and I didn't see a way to add "spoiler tags," so I tried to make that part highlight-only :o I got a talking-to from a mod about that on another forum once, so now I'm really cautious :o But yeah...

Well, she is alive, but has broken up with and apparently cut off contact with the Secondary. I am checking out your link and will keep looking for mental health assistance. I feel terrible for bothering her and adding extra stress to her life, even though everyone says I couldn't really...

This is not about me. I spent the day on Skype with the Secondary, getting the full story. This is not about me. The following content may be triggering to anyone who has dealt with a loved one's suicide. This is not about me. The Newbie's ex killed himself. She found the corpse. This is...

Edit: Never mind. The Newbie just dumped the Secondary. I feel like I ruined everything.

Nah, she directly acknowledged receipt of my message from her own Facebook account through a short IM. It's just that that was more than 2 full days ago now, and she's been ignoring me since :( The thing is that I don't think he is being tricky on purpose. I think that he thinks he has...

Thanks for the welcome message, LovingRadiance. I checked out the Golden Nuggets section and wow, there is great stuff in there :) To update on my situation, after getting back to the (former) Secondary after a week of no contact, during which the only request I had left him with was to simply...

Thank you for the input. I'm going to cool off for a few more days, then check in with the (now former? ha) Secondary. If he's told the Newbie what he said he would, I'm going to take him back and do as you advised. I think I'm just going to send a Facebook message to the Newbie at first, as...

After reading this, I decided to look up a different study by Anderson myself, and you are certainly correct. Considering his own nuanced views, I wonder why Anderson seemingly chose to give such relatively conventional interview answers. It reminds me of what Noam Chomsky said regarding media...

Well, I'm not very experienced with poly, but my last three relationships were with gentlemen I met online, so I thought I might offer my own experience here: The percentage of married men who contact me is quite a lot lower, but I think that is mostly because I am younger, so most men my age...

I found an article on Slate that I thought y'all might find interesting. Here is a snippet: The link to the full article is here: http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/science/2013/12/female_promiscuity_in_primates_when_do_women_have_multiple_partners.html Personally, I have to...

Oh, I see what you're saying. I appreciate the explanation. How would you recommend that I find out whether the Newbie really knows that the Secondary and I consider each other more than friends? I certainly don't want to micromanage anyone's life, but I guess I may be doing it just because I...

I am sorry I did not include that option in the poll; it did not occur to me when I was first making this post. Thank you for taking the time to post a response. My view of it is, if he is having a romantic relationship with me and not telling his girlfriend, isn't he cheating on her? That's...

This thread is one of the best things I've read all year. I feel like I'm about to cry just from reading it. Maybe it's because I have multiple disabilities as well, but mine are all usually invisible to anyone but trained medical professionals, so your blog captures my secret feelings. Hell, I...

Hello, and thank you for the friendly welcome :) I spent a lot of time thinking about your question yesterday. Does the Newbie know the Secondary and I are romantic partners? I cannot say with any certainty that she does, especially since she just referred to me as a "friend." Thinking of...

Update: The "Secondary" says that he discussed relationship boundaries with the Newbie. Apparently, the Newbie basically said "no making out with/sex with" other people, and that's it. I am completely fine with this agreement since, like I said, our relationship was non-sexual anyway. After...