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You knew all this while dating him? I guess I wonder what you hoped might change in him after marriage that didn't change? So the...

Hello bananafish, I suppose what you tell your husband is, something like, "Honey, I have recently realized that I am polyamorous --...

truth is, I didn't talk to him cause I also never felt safe to do it. And that tells me a lot about the type of relationship I am in...

Thank you. I realize that, even if i don't necessarily agree, a lot of people would consider that cheating. So I will keep it in mind.

Thank you for more info. So this isn't a passing fancy. Could take some time to do your soul searching. If before you were answering...

I do resonate a lot with what you said. Specially cause he always felt very threatened by my male friends but not women, even though he...

I think it is both. The crush was an eye opener to my marital problems. But it is also not a passing fancy, believe me. I've been...

First of all I have no idea what would be an active romance by today’s standards BUT clearly the amount of time the amount of attention...

My wife and I have been together for 20 years She told me the week between Christmas and New Years that she wants an open marriage ...

That's the thing. Is this considered and "active romance" just because they told someone they crush on them? If it is? Then I agree...

welcome to the forum. Im not to the level of many on this forum as to their knowledge of poly, but my story has a positive surprise...

Is this more in being able to tell him your desires and not be judged or is this more being able to act out on your desires? It is...

So... you aren't loving them NOW in their own ways? One as your husband and one as your friend? What is the arguing about? Or do you...

It’s more important right now to be honest with him about what your feeling rather than who you’re having those feelings for. Help him...

Glad it helped you some. In talking with friend about the crush stuff? I think you jumped the gun a bit there. Could have talked to...