Recent content by bananafish

that's a really good question. i don't know that he will wait for long time. its hard because my husband also involves the life that i know. and if i choose to keep my friend in my life, it will probably mean starting over in many different aspects. and i guess that scares me? i don't want to...

yeah, friend is sticking around if i want to. but, as of right now, i am in a sort of ultimatum. husband basically said: you got to choose between him or me. and i dont think i want to do that. i want both. i dont want to lose my husband or the life i have with him. but at the same time i have...

its true. i am certainly feeling a lot of self hate. i will keep this in mind, thank you

hello friends. i wanted to let you know that i did, tell my husband, that is. bomb hit the ground and everything is very uncertain right now, but at least i can be grateful for lessons learned. first of all, being for the first time in the role of the bad person, or the villain, or the...

truth is, I didn't talk to him cause I also never felt safe to do it. And that tells me a lot about the type of relationship I am in. That I don't feel safe enough to talk things with the one person I should be able to trust? that speaks miles about our problems, to begin with.

Thank you. I realize that, even if i don't necessarily agree, a lot of people would consider that cheating. So I will keep it in mind.

I do resonate a lot with what you said. Specially cause he always felt very threatened by my male friends but not women, even though he knows that ocasionally I like women too. And I always thought that talked miles about his issues and insecurities. I don't think im being spied on or anything...

I think it is both. The crush was an eye opener to my marital problems. But it is also not a passing fancy, believe me. I've been struggling with my feelings for this person for quite a long time. I've been in hard core denial, telling myself he was just a friend, for years now. I don't want to...

I am loving them in their own ways. The arguing comes from my husband feeling jealous because he believes I'm too close to my friend. Which is true, because he is a lot more than just a friend. I haven't taken any actions towards being with him because I don't want to cheat. I've talked to my...

Thank you so very much for replying. I definitely want to act on my desires. I haven't done it yet because I don't want to cheat. But I also want to make sure it is all worth it before dropping the bomb. Thank you for all the questions you asked, I realized I hadn't thought about some...

Hi everyone. I've been in a mono relationship for almost ten years, and married for half of those. Recently, I came to the conclusion that i have a strong connection to a friend who i have also known for a very long time. After some arguments and jealousy from my husband, I realized i didn't...