Recent content by being747

I feel superior. Maybe that's stupid, but does anyone feel that, too? When you listen to people who are monogamous, talking about their problems, fighting because of their partner looking at another woman, etc. I feel so superior. My husband is now telling me everything. I know who thrills him...

So true, and of course there will be situations like that in the future, too. But now we now he can be easy with that. And the endless discussion before made it feel massive. He said all that theroretical playing things through was horrible and had nothing to do with reality. We know we have to...

positive feelings about opening up This is a thread of positive aspects of living poly. For me it is: Feeling free-- I feel I can do many things I couldn't do before. Being me-- my whole life I've been excited about other men. Now I can even talk to my husband about it. ...to be continued

For me it is the feelings I got towards his girlfriend. I figured out their meetings don't bother me. But I don't know if it is a "typical" polyamory. We have kids and the relationship to his girlfriend is secret. She has been to our house, but nobody knows she's more than just a friend. We...

what a change I think it's important to complete that thread by telling you what happened. I was in another city on the weekend. He was as scared and insecure as one can get. He felt all unkomfortabel all the time. On saturday night I got to know an irish guy, 25 years old, really interesting...

Thank you all very much!! I really appreciate your wise replies. After being all stubborn and negative my husband decided to examine and read about jealousy. I feel that it needs more time. I know he felt quite pushed into it.... I checked out your link gala girl and i talked with him about...

@central: I really offered him that I just leave it, lets say for a year or so and then talk about it again. But I don´t know if I can mange that. Just imagine, ther is another guy I really want....how can I convince myself when I know he did it??? To explain the situation: I really love sex...

Thanks a lot for your answers....your ideas help me a lot :) He said today, that he will end his relationship with his girlfriend. I´d really be annoyed if he started liing at me!!! "he could have one- I should have one too"- That is exactly what he complains about. That I would have such an...

I´m 40 and my husband is 38. After 15 years of monogamy, we decided to open up our marriage (that was in march). I´ve wanted that for years....It took years for him to realize that I really meant what I said. He´s been having a girl friend since summer, but he´s really having a problem with me...

Failed again . He wrote me he has got no time to meet me . Maybe another day. I wrote: I just wanted to ask you a question. He: oh. I thought you wanted to give me the money. Can a man be so dumb??? Now he wanted me to write the question. Is that an option? I think no , because it would be...

I would have said : ich weiß ja nicht ob ich die Signale richtig verstehe, aber ich würde mich gerne mal etwas mit deinem körper beschäftigen

Oh...ok. could be a way, too. Keep it slow. I rather thought of something like: I'm not quite sure what signals you give me, but can I play with your body a little bit? (Sounds better in german ;) ) To be honest: I don't want to drink coffee with him. It would kill me!! He's so fucking hot, he's...

Wow. I really like your advices. Seems like honesty is everything... I feel I really need to be brave for that :) I'm a step further today. He gave me so many signals tonight. Smiling at me, looking at me so many times...as if he knew!!! But with friends around us all the time. It felt so sure...

That sounds so easy when you write it. ;) Guess I'm already failing in the stage before that. I met a guy (he is single) and I couldn't even get it to the point to be alone with him. He seems to have interest, but he knows I 'm married and he might not even think about open relationships. Last...

For me it is also not that easy. Though I wanted to, I didn't have sex yet (we opened our marriage in march) My husband is planning to meet his "affair"(girlfriend?) In a hotel and i'm totally ok with that. (Our kids are teenagers. So we really want to keep it secret) Budget hotels in germany...