Recent content by Bella

Thank you for the link LR; I skimmed some of the articles and there is definitely a lot there I can take in.

It was definitely my insecurities that were triggered, feeling like I'm not enough somehow, that he doesn't love me the way he says and the way that I feel he does; and I think also, given some things that happened in my past, my fear of abandonment. Being so new to a relationship with someone...

I was able to spend an amazing weekend with my boyfriend this weekend, time that is precious to me and I find myself struggling with something that happened last night and not wanting to let my feelings about that taint the rest of the weekend. My boyfriend and I were able to spend time with...

Hi redsirenn! Thank you for your message :) I'm feeling very happy today and so very much looking forward to this weekend; I will be spending the weekend with my boyfriend and will be able to spend some time with his wife and her boyfriend, as well. Though admittedly, spending the weekend with...

Ah, hugs are always appreciated - even the lopsided one :) And thank you for your message (((lovefromgirl))) It's interesting that I should be in the relationship I'm in at this point in my life. I think most people spend their teens and twenties searching for who they are, and I definitely...

I think what hurt the most is that this is a friend I have known since grade school. She is as close to me as a sister, and someone I thought I could open up to about my relationship. All I really wanted was someone to talk to, to help get me through a lonely night, and I was basically cut off...

Hi Sam and welcome! I'm very new to the forum as well but have already chatted with some great people and received so much support. Nice avatar, btw; I'm an X-Files fan also :)

A lot of my family doesn't really know about the nature of my relationship, though several have met my boyfriend. The few who do know have started to treat me very differently, to the point where I don't want to be around them, especially if I'm with my boyfriend. I called one of my closest...

Hi Jessie, I hope all is well for you and yours also. And I hope you have a great weekend!

Yeah, even in the couple of days that I've been posting, I've felt so accepted and "normal." Most of my friends and family do not understand poly at all and are very closed off to even discussing it. For them, it equates to cheating and is morally wrong. Finally finding people who understand and...

The more I've thought about this the past couple of days, the more I'm realizing how wrapped up I tend to get in all the labels. I think somewhere in my mind I feel like I have to be or become poly, since my boyfriend is. To some I would be considered his "secondary." Identifying myself that...

Thank you All of your warm welcomes and support have me wondering why I didn't join a while ago! Thank you everyone for all your messages! :)

Thank you! CielDuMatin, thank you so much for the link to Franklin Veaux's site. I think somewhere in my mind I felt that I had to label myself as poly even when I'm still trying to sort out if I am. The writing you posted definitely did give me a lot of food for thought and made me realize...

I guess this will be my first official post, well, other than my post in the introductions thread. I've identified as monogamous for all of my adult life and have only recently begun to really learn about polyamory. I met and fell very deeply in love with a man who has long identified himself...

After lurking for a little while, I finally decided to take the plunge and join. I'm very new to polyamory and have recently met and fallen in love with a man who identifies as polyamorous. He has been married for 10+ years and both he and his wife are now in relationships outside their...