Recent content by Belle

I would find it very difficult to be mature in that situation. The idea of taking from my babies to support hers would make me sick. To me, men provide a worm and mothers have more inherant rights. And I'm done arguing hypothetical scenarios. I'm not in the mood, I hope you understand. Belle

Mutually incredulous. Regardless, irrelevant. I'm understanding of his feelings and that's what's important. I'd probably divorce him if he put us in a situation of paying child support so I agree it's possibly cultural.

"Would, if need be" is quite different than truly having no preference between spending energy and resources on your biological offspring and picking up the slack for others. I wouldn't. Not if I didn't have to. Babysit? Transport? Christmas gifts? Sure. Pay for clothes, childcare, college...

There's no "possible" about the father of the baby. My ex is the father. Change the timing by a week or by a month or three months - and it's either my ex or it's an immaculate conception. If I told his friends that I decided to be a surrogate for him, I'm sure they'd object regardless of...

Oh, tell me about it. First of all, it's difficult to convey all the information people need to give informed, relevant advice. That is why I wrote this as an outlet more so than request for feedback. I would need a novella to even begin to explain things. I'll say this much though...

I think mostly what I'm looking for is an outlet - this isn't necessarily something that's appropriate for Facebook or even Fetlife. It's not something I can discuss with my friends (yet) or my family (ever). Anywhere else, I'd be judged on my poly status - I am sure most folks here would agree...