Recent content by Bells

Your right, that's what I am doing. Sometimes someone has to point out to you that your being codependent.

I have not posted in a while but basically things started out moving really quickly in my relationships. I was seriously seeing two people and causally seeing someone else and one of the people I was seriously seeing was also seeing someone else. Its been several months now, the second guy I...

So this is my first time having a serious, open from the very beginning, relationship. There is absolutely nothing 'wrong' in my relationships, a little jealousy here and there but more of a passing thought than an actual problem. However, I just feel things are moving way to fast. My...

Thanks guys, this actually really helped a lot. I think I was just feeling a bit insecure with everything. Hopefully with time that is going to tone down a bit.

Ok so I have mentioned I am new to this, still feeling out the whole thing deciding if this really for me or not. Anyways my primary boyfriend is seeing a new girl, I have met her a few times, we get along good, things are really comfortable the times the three of us have hung out. Part of me...

Your not missing anything, I am just new and nervous. I don't usually meet people I really click with very frequently and for it to happen twice, and so close in time to each other is just very different for me.

I had posted a little while ago I had feelings for a particular guy who is poly and already in a few very serious relationships. We talked a lot and the end result is, he is making me a part of his life but there are just only so many hours in a day so I do not see tons of him. He is great...

It is sort of funny you guys said that, because in different words, that is very much how the conversation went. He explained to me how, even though there are a lot of people in his life, it does not make him care less for one when he is caring more for another. I am thinking I am making the...

I just thought I would update this. I finally had a really (really) long conversation with Aiden about what was going on. We talked a lot about realistic expectations from each other. Part of me is still worried about about how little of his time I am actually going to be getting, but he is...

He has occasionally mentioned that he is skipping doing something in order to spend time with me, but never really important things, just slightly inconveniencing himself in order to spend more time with me. Not cutting into time with the other women. All of his other partners are also seeing...

That's exactly what I am afraid of. Like I said, I am seeing other people, but I have yet to meet that person that I can take along to normal "bring your SO" occasions. I have not been looking terribly long, though.

It is a conversation we need to have. We have sort of been avoiding it, changing the topic when it comes up as to what we are.

I knew straight from the get-go that this guy Aiden was polyamorous. Pretty much the first conversation we ever had was him explaining his relationships to me. I am pretty familiar with poly relationships, but I'd never been in one. I would describe what I have done as more like open...