Recent content by BigGuy

Jealousy is not always a bad thing. It can be an early warning system when things aren't right, but you haven't figured out what yet. If you have examined your feelings and can't determine a cause, maybe it's just a little separation anxiety. Might I suggest you get yourself a totem. A...

If your BF is anything like me, my first inclination is to "fix" things. It sounds like to me that he was trying to fix the situation. It has taken many conversations twith my wife and daughter for me to understand that sometimes they don't want things to be fixed. Many times they just want...

Your issue is wirh G, not L. If you want time with him that is uninterrupted, then it is up to him to ensure that time is uninterrupted. Whether that means he steps up and makes sure she has everything she needs, or making arrangements so that L can get what she needs without relying on G...

I also think you're doing good. I subscribe to the theory that thought generates emotion. When you are "in the moment" I suggest you focus on breathing. Identify the emotions you're feeling. Try to step outside of them and examine them. Contemplate things that bring you peace, things for...

One suggestion, you may want to ask her about her thoughts on open relationships. While it's becoming more widely known, there are still a lot of people who know nothing about it. You could then move the conversation towards polyamory.

Travel for work varies from 0-5 nights a week, averaging 2 nights a week. I see Suzanne 1-2 nights every other week. Sheila has to put up with me the rest of the time.

Speaking as someone with ED, the more pressure there is to perform, the more likely it isn't going to happen. It's a vicious circle. My advice is to let it go. It really isn't about you. Don't make orgasm or PIV the sole determiner of whether or not the experience is a good one. Be present...

I think you need to tell them that you need to suspend sexual activity with them because you are developing romantic feelings for M. If they are open to a deeper relationship with you then they will be the ones to initiate it. If they are not open to a deeper relationship, then you will know...

Why would someone want to be friends with people who go around shunning people because of what their partner says? Especially if they don't even talk to the person directly. This prejudice is just as bad, if not worse than the ignorant date rape comment. I think it's for him to get new friends.

Relationship transitions work as long as everyone is on board with it. In other words, if she is ok with you moving out and keeping a relationship with just him, then it shouldn't be a problem. If she gets upset, and seeing that he is okay with status quo at your expense, then I suspect that...

Jealousy, like physical pain is not always a bad thing. It lets us know when something is wrong. It tellls us when something needs attention, either within ourselves or with our relationship. I suggest you may want to introspect what needs you have that are not being met. And if your...

It's not unusual for partners to ask for reassurance of their importance early in the poly experience. It's scary to think that the person you love may find someone "better". In my opinion, as long as you and he continue to communicate and you meet his need for reassurance, there's nothing...

Polyamory isn't so much about one's ability to have multiple relationships as it is about one's ability for their partners to have multiple relationships. Many people profess Polyamory when what they really want is a harem. Which is also okay if everyone is on the same page. It would save a lot...

I am former Air Force. It's human nature to categorize people based on our existing knowledge base. It is shorthand thinking. If we didn't do this, we would be overwhelmed with information overload. Not good, not bad, it just is. As a service member, you will be expected and held to a...

What you describe is typically identified as a mono-poly relationship.