Recent content by biglover

which thread is this Mr./Mrs. Sleuthe? ;) i don't believe she has posted on this exact issue but it is possible...

That's very true. I wasn't he one calling it a curfew and i agree, it is not the best term for these kinds of things. Sorry for the misinterpretation. it just helped me see something in a way i felt was applicable to how i was responding to the situation, but i see what you mean in its...

I haven't had a chance to talk to her since i have been posting this. It may be hard for her because she already feels that she has done soooo much to make me comfortable, but we never talked out how things were to be done when she actually found someone. so maybe that's why she feels like i'm...

this is definitely good positive re enforcement. however it is not other peoples's boundaries i'm worried about it is hers in a way because for this time i need her to oblidge me and my needs and then i think your right. I would find it much easier to relax into letting go of those boundaries...

thanks i am checking it out now...

But she doesn't see it that way and i'm sure she wouldn't mean to, she just sees me asking for this as being a way to control the situation and i'm sure i could get to the point of not needing a specific time, but this is the first time and its something to work towards. but this feels like a...

Its because this is the first time she will be doing anything solo without me and part of the agreement was that she was going to spend the day with him and then see me in the evening. This is why a txt or something at 10pm is too late for me. the problem is that she refuses to give me even a...

being a newbie that is involved with someone who has vastly more experience than i by comparison i definitely have made that assumption that she shouldn't have nearly as much trouble dealing with the issues that i had to. but i was COMPLETLY wrong. She has also said that she never used to feel...

I believe this is known as the Kinsey scale. It has helped me a lot to figure out how i fit in on the spectrum:) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

I see... That is pretty sweet. so then what is the female equivalent of the unicorn? Pegaseus? sorry, what a meant was the equivalent as in a bi male that is the third in a triad. would that be considered a pesaseus or centaur? since the female version is a unicorn.

Sorry, i'm a bit of a noob... What is a unicorn in poly teerms?

I have made plans with a friend and a 24. so i think that i can keep myself distracted. I have thought about asking for a check in call. She has said that it is possible that she may not do anything intimate and that they may just hang out. so i feel like if she called to check in and was...

thanks. I definitely figured it out. was soooo lost there for awhile. :)

So I and my partner A are exploring our newish open relationship. I say newish because tho we have been open for a year now, we still haven't been able to do much. This is because we are working through all the kinks together. Now A has been very patient with me in waiting for me to get to...

I agree with this. If you can spend time with T without bad things happening or coming up, it should make his trust in you a lot stronger and thus would be easier for you get what you want from J without having as much to deal with from T because he won't feel as neglected. Just a thought. BL