Recent content by Bluebaron

Thanks for the advice everyone we'll see how we get on. Hi Magdlyn, Over the last few months Alice is spending more and more time with us. Just seemed like a natural progression for her to move in although she still has a room at her parents should she need space. We don't have a spare room...

Anyone have any recommendations for extra large beds? Im in the uk and a Kingsize is 6' x 6'6". With three in the bed its a bit of a squeeze. Would you recommend using two smaller doubles or a single and a double and pushing them together or going for an huge Emperor/Caesar bed which is Likely...

I don't think it was ever a situation of Alice not wanting to have a sexual relationship with me. She's always made it clear that she enjoys sex with a man, (which has always made me question her true sexuality), She has however said she doesn't 'desire' it all the time. Its this sort of...

Thanks again for some good advice and suggestions. I did realise when I was typing it out that I was referring to Alice as a 'third' but couldn't think of another way of expressing it! I am conscious around her to use 'We' as in all three of us and never 'We' as in Honey and me. If we have a...

Hi All, Just an update to my situation. Since Covid all three of us have been off work. A big part of our relationship involved Honey and Alice having time to themselves and as such we now split our time with Alice staying a week at a time with us and Honey and her spending a few days together...

Does anyone have any advice I can give to our girlfriend? Some of you may be familiar with my situation and if not can catch up here: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=129857 We are all getting on well but a constant issue that does arise it that of Alice feeling second best or...

Thanks everyone, Galagirl;: I pulled out before as I could see myself getting hurt and because I didn't want Alice doing anything she didn't want to do. I still really wanted it to work so when Alice approached me and said lets try again I said yes. I also told her my condition which was that...

As of yesterday I was pretty much in agreement with powerpuffgrl1969, Evie and in the most part Galagirl. But then this morning it all changed again!! So yesterday I mentioned to Alice that Honey was coming round to the idea that I possibly look to date someone else to relive the pressure on...

Hi All, I thought I would update you in what's been happening. So at the beginning of January it became clear that we all had different 'wants' and expectations. I sat down with Alice and explained what I wanted and what I expected. (I guess the difference being that if I felt I didn't get...

Yep I think I’m with Evie. Thanks for input, interesting discussion.

Thanks GG, Yep I realise its a bit confusing. I'm really not sure where honey is with it all and I think neither does she. She has less insecurity with Alice as she identifies as a lesbian, clearly having a relationship with me means she's is, at least, in part BI. From my other thread you...

Thanks for the input, some interesting perspectives and advice. That's really where this stems from, she got a bit upset when we discussed the girlfriend issue and I mentioned honey wasn't into it as she views me having sex with another woman as different to her, which in effect devalued her...

General question to gauge a consensus: My wife had recently identified as BI and we are currently in a triad with third person. We are all happy with this situation but recently we discussed that maybe I would take on another partner. (not something I currently want but as a general...

Yes agree more sound advice. I’m looking forward to see what this year brings. BB

I think what I 'Need' is to feel connected to the Triad, yes sex is a part of it but not in totality. Im just finishing reading 'More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory', All in all a good read. interesting that I seem to find myself in something by default that many folk spend...