Recent content by bofish

Thank you F, again here's the link: http://www.vidaweb.org/reports-from-the-field-compassion-in-po-biz/ Don't mind getting comments here. I probably won't respond to negative stuff because i've had my fill of that, but would love to hear peoples take.

New Article Hello everyone, I was very active on the list, but needed to take a break. Part of the break was the backlash I felt when discussing the issue of disability. In fact, disability has become MORE of a factor in my polylife now. Before, I was in love with someone (still am) but...

Be open and funny. Humor is very attractive. And write to women that interest you. But write a few sentences and be kind. I erase guys who just write "hi" , a "form" letter, or any sexual gesture in the first email.

Hello everyone, I was very active on the list, but needed to take a break. Part of the break was the backlash I felt when discussing the issue of disability. In fact, disability has become MORE of a factor in my polylife now. Before, I was in love with someone (still am) but cannot be with...

Hi Kevin, I haven't been on the list in a long time. Dinged heart sent me a message about this -I really like you and wanted to respond. I haven't read the other posts, so don't know if I repeat. I think it depends on the family. Thus far, our one 11 year son has had little negative effects...

I have been in numerous romantic situations where we could not "be" together. On the one hand, these relationships have been horribly painful. On the other hand, I have grown as person, as much, if not more, from these interactions as I have from requited love. I'm kind of a "master" at loving...

Can anyone offer thoughts on menopause? Did you find it that people didn't speak of it in public? How did you get through really depressed days? Did you become more sexually wild?

Thanks MonkeyStyle and i'm sorry if I misread your post about Wolf of Wall Street. You are totally right about disability in many ways. Part of this issue is the difference in attitudes within the disability 'community." For example, Deaf folks do not consider themselves disabled. People...

Thank you SC. You are right. You're discussing the most controversial topic on the face of the earth Why is treating disabled people like human beings so damn controversial ? :) Darn it! It should be easier. I go back to my original thought. The abled-bodied are terrified of disability. Of...

Londn I feel like you are aggressively pestering me. WHERE DID I SAY THAT? PLEASE BE SPECIFIC. OR LEAVE ME ALONE. O wait, I see it, YES! I think PUTTING YOUR CHILD IN AN INSTITUTION AND TELLING HIS SIBLINGS HE'S DEAD AND ABANDONING HIM IS SERIOUSLY FUCKED UP! You don't? Do you believe in...

Reading Group Last night I went to me first meeting of a disability reading group. In the past week, I've been involved in a discussion here on disability and abortion. At the group we were reading a book on Queerness, Feminism, and Cripness. Just an overview, to describe the people. I have...

I love this quote From Alison Kafer's book Feminist, Queer, Crip The recent statements by British advice columnist Virginia ironside about the “suf- fering” of disabled children similarly require a challenge from disability and reproduc- tive rights supporters. in arguing for the right to...

NYc I am truly sorry I made that assumption of you. I was wrong. I made it because that is what feminists standby. "I don't think anyone should question or judge a woman's reasons for doing it. What is the point in that?" I am 100% for legal abortion and a women's right to chose. I do see...

Jobs BD, Thank you so much for writing all this. I have learned so much from you. I understand and can empathize with the situation. I think there might be two differences I am not keying into. 1. It sounds like your area of the state is particularly non-prejudicial and that is enlightening...

BD- thank you for the education of SSDI versus SSI. So, I have had both --SSi (welfare) when I was young and SSDI which i paid for. Woud you be open to directly speaking to what I wrote before -- about actually giving up SSDI for the pleasure of working? About my difficulty in maintaining that...