I'm thinking that I agree with the OP and also with you, dh, though I am not sure that I see how all thoughts and actions are born of one or the other, and not possibly a third option at times-- pain, for instance.
What if the significant other is just plain neglectful, and the jealousy is not...
Just introducing myself and saying hi...
I believe polyamory is what we are evolving towards and it disturbs me that it is often confused with swinging - though I dont think swinging necessarily a bad thing - I want people to realize the wisdom in a serious approach to this lifestyle.
I do...