Recent content by BreatheDeeply

A lot of Purity Ring at the moment (don't let the name fool you if you haven't heard them before). Anyone been to their concerts? Missed them when they were here in Sydney, bought tix, then got the date wrong.

This is a good chance for you now to venture out and try different partners too if that's what you're interested in. Maybe I'll throw this in the mix though - are you a bit jealous of the fun she's having? If so, then maybe asking for more ffm 3somes would help to balance the fun-equation a bit.

I don't get why some guys are so bad at writing. What percentage, anyone, would you estimate of the posts you receive are just poorly written?

Correct me if I'm wrong GG - but my interpretation is that you should focus more on the meaning of responses that serve to reassure you rather then those that simply make you feel insecure. By allowing your conscious thoughts to pay too much attention to your insecurities you run the risk of...

What's so interesting about what you said is how the advances had to be plausible to you. Now that we live in a period of time where tech advances are on an accelerating curve, most of the concepts I had written off (along with open relationships) in sci fi are now very plausible. NASA has...

I had read Heinlein too, but just assumed that like most concepts in sci fi that it was just made up stuff. My life is filled with sci fi's empty promises of future worlds where people live incredibly long lives, visit beautiful worlds, and of course, as equally untrue, have open relationships...

That's a real breakdown in communication on your wife's part. Someone once told me that the responsibility to get the message across lays with the communicator rather then the communicatee. (Yes, I know I'm taking liberty with grammar here.) And it doesn't sound like your wife took the...

You're doing what you can, that's all you can ask of yourself. You're going slow, you're keeping everyone informed about what's going on with your feelings. They need to know that this is who you are, and if in fact it is, then it's as much a part of who you are as your gender or your...

I think you have to guage this based on your personal comfort level. I would not be comfortable telling someone who's not poly that I am poly. Mainly because I exist in a conservative environment and its really a matter of self-preservation. However, even if I lived in a non-judgemental...

Thanks Meera, well written article.

Just remember it's not a blind date. You've already been out with him a few times, just not alone. But that really doesn't change too much. He's still the same as when the both of you went out with him. If it's too stressful, pick an easy venue, like dinner and a movie, maybe. Or even just...

First, let me just say that you've been through a rotten 'Welcome to polyamory' experience! It just sounds as though your gf and her bf didn't get their act together beforehand, and now you're suffering the consequences. Before getting into each part of your story, I just have to ask, didn't...

You didn't lose her, she lost you. The problem is that she has grown up in a world of assumptive monogamy, and few are able to stand outside of their cultural assumptions and evaluate their personal values on the merits only. Not her fault, and not yours either. Unfortunately human brains are...

Does she know this is going to be a dealbreaker? Just make sure she does. It's not a threat. It's just a clear establishment of boundaries. Every relationship has a terminal boundary, one that once crossed can never be uncrossed. This is that boundary for you. You know that once you set down...

I exist in a conservative world (most don't even know I have a tongue piercing!), so I have never come out as poly. I'm perpetually in the closet to those around me, and that's not likely to change. But, when I do finally start looking for someone, sharing my poly nature is going to be one of...