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    What part does commitment play in poly?

    Huge questions, but important ones. I think I have to agree with the majority of people who said "it depends." Part of what it depends on, though, is the definition of commitment. I suppose that there are many ways of looking at commitment. Is it terms of monogamy? Of not falling in love...
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    Mattress Issues!

    Hi, everybody! This may sound like a bizarre question, but we need some help in choosing a new mattress that fits our polyamorous lifestyle. Our old mattress is aging rabidly and none of us are too comfortable at night, so we need something new. But what? Are there mattress that are better...
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    I hope you can still see this reply, considering how old the thread is... Hi, fellow sci-fi geek! (And I mean that in the nicest possible way.) What's quite a story, my friend. You've dealt with some difficult issues amazingly well, it seems. Interestingly, we see, to have some parallels...
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    Finances and the Mundane Details of Being a Poly Family

    Very good point. Sadly, our bed is big and our room is small. Yay! Good for y'all. It also makes me think that, perhaps, eventually, a four bedroom house is the answer. Thanks! A lot of that was really helpful. I'm still getting used to things here; it's been a long time since I've...
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    Why and how did you get into poly?

    Dare I admit this? Only the first Star Wars trilogy really counts in my head.
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    Finances and the Mundane Details of Being a Poly Family

    Hi! If this is the wrong thread for this, I apologize... I am curious as to how people who live with their multiple partners deal with things like finances, personal space, chores, and the other mundane details of family life. How do you divide space? Do you eat together? What are the...
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    Why and how did you get into poly?

    OMG! I totally felt this way, too! Granted, I was too young to really get the sexual part of it, but it has always made perfect sense to me that three (or more) people could all love each other.
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    Dating married poly couple

    But does she like her job and hours? Again, I'm just asking because there are different sorts of jealousy/resentment and I realized that a BIG part of mine was the jealousy and resentment of them having more free time (not just together, but in general) and having free time during the beautiful...
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    Am I actually poly?

    Ditto the above!
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    Dating married poly couple

    This may sound like an odd question, but how does the wife feel about her job? And her husband's job? And your schedule? I am asking because I have been in a slightly similar situation (as the wife who resents the time the other two spent together), and I came to realize that the heart of the...
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    Help! Poly gone wrong :( My Seemingly unsolvable problem.

    It's hard to say because I know so little of the situation, but, in general, I have found that ultimatums - or at least the sort of large-scale demands that your wife made - do not bode well for a relationship. To me, it sounds like a breech of love/trust/respect. Have you talked about this...
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    V-type polyamory relationships

    way acadaid I get this. TOTALLY. We call ourselves a triad because we all love each other deeply, but C. and I are not generally sexually involved. We kiss and cuddle and are best friends in love, but he's mostly queer and I'm mostly straight. We are both, however, sexually involved with A...
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    Annoying article

    IH etatents I actually made it through the entire article, though I confess that my constant eye rolling may have inadvertently caused me to miss a few passages. Basically, the sense I got was that the author was saying that the problem with polyamory is that it comes from a space that is...
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    Hi, everyone! ***waves shyly***

    Hello! As you probably surmised by the fact that I am posting in the Introductions Forum, I am new here. So please excuse any breeches of etiquette I might commit. I live in Taos, NM, and am currently in a poly relationship with two truly wonderful men - who are also in a relationship with...
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