Recent content by bulrush

I'm in an open relationship not because there is anything wrong with my gf, but because I like variety and adventure. My gf satisfies me many ways: emotionally, intellectually, and sexually. There is nothing I would change about her. Your gf may feel the same way. Why not ask her what attracts...

"Didn't I have pants?" "Do you have my underwear?" A bi guy said "Is this shirt too gay?" Girl: "Is this nice smelly soap for your gay half?" Bi guy: "Yes! Now gimme." Him calling his girlfriend: "Hi babe. Guess what?" Her: "What?" Him: "I have (new couple) here at my house and we're all...

My definitions: - Sex: where 2 or more people are involved, and someone's genitals are touched in any manner by another person. - Intercourse: PIV sex where one partner is penetrated by another with a body part. In the case of heterosexual couples the woman can get pregnant this way...

I'm a man, but, it seems, I'm not a typical man. I'm very comfortable with my emotions. In general, in serious relationships, I have to be attracted to a woman's personality. If that isn't there, I don't get as much out of the sex part. And sometimes I'm not attracted to her at all sexually...

Most people get nervous when it's a new experience. That's normal. Do you think you are nervous because it's just a new experience? Have you heard them before when you didn't all live together? What changed? How do you feel if you watched AND heard them? If you all loved and trusted each...

Here are the deal killers for me: If a woman replies with minimal information to my questions. If I ask "How was your weekend?" she replies "Ok, fine." If she is not assertive in maintaining communication, that's a red flag. If she wants me to do all the work, I'm not interested. If spelling...

Yes. That's really nice. No jealousy. Everybody cares, everybody shares. Everyone takes turns. Everyone is mature about it. Open communication. Talk about issues right away before they become too serious.

You know condoms do not stop herpes simplex infections, right? Why not? Is he that insecure? If my girlfriend wants to use a 24" dildo, that's fine with me. I'll sit back and watch. Here's a suggestion: some couples only "play" with another woman if both of them are there at the time.

Yes, it's VERY tough for men in the dating world now, even single, reliable, responsible men. I'm also on OKCupid. What I have learned in the dating scene is many men my age (40s) are still very immature, old-fashioned, unreliable, creepy, or emotionally lacking. (I hear stories from my dates.)...

Jay should get all the negative people out of his life. If he doesn't, there is no point in you continuing this relationship with him, because it just won't work. If Jay isn't strong enough to get rid of these drama people, then you are better off without him, infatuation or not.

If I meet a girl who claims to be poly, I would really prefer to at least talk to the husband/boyfriend.

I'm a guy. After I read the above posts I have to agree with the posters: this guy sounds suspicious. Polyamory doesn't mean just sleeping with other girls. It means being dedicated to each one and making sure everyone's needs are met. When your needs are met, you are happy, and less jealous...

Not less complicated, but not more complicated I think. Both mono and poly relationships take the same skills. Just in poly you have to be more aware of more peoples' needs and desires. So, communication is still important.

First, I sort of jumped into things. My new gf had one FWB, and on the first or second date, she told me about him. She assured me they were FWB and she was looking for something more serious. So I accepted that. She also agreed to me having an FWB, since she is 2 hours away, and not only did...

As a man it's difficult for me to maintain more than casual contact (emails) with former girlfriends. I just don't have the time. So, if things ended well, I might send them an email every few months. But I don't see them.