Recent content by carl

Try 9 years in a long distance relationship, in two separate countries, no less!

I had thought I'd want to know intimate details, although the 'flow' of that information never really got off the ground. One thing that helped was, my intimate relationship with my SO has improved, but not because of her OSO. I think as long as our intimacy redevelops into something similar to...

I get what you mean about the red/haze. My rage has been mostly the result of a loving wife going from truly considering (NOT always agreeing and in fact, often we didn't agree prior to this arrangement) my feelings, to almost not at all.. And feelings are a bit tricky... because while I...

Hey vodkafan, thanks for approaching me. I have a funny feeling we and bond over a few things. I really appreciate the welcome, and in fact referenced your last post in the mono thread. Cheers.

The poly situation is a new one, and actually when I read vodkafan's account of his facebook experience, I was immediately reminded of my own. The concept of all made to feel "valued and special" gets lost to the extreme when couples are in the middle of NRE, and being very public about it in...

Hi, I'm new to the site, thread. And, in a lot of emotional turmoil over finding myself in a poly situation that was not expected. I don't have much to say right now, so I'll likely lurk for a while. My wife is on this forum, and she doesn't know I signed up, but told me about this, so I feel...