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I'm not saying he's bi because he only likes oral. I'm saying he doesn't like anal with men. He's fine to do it with me. From what he's told me, he's never been into men emotionally. He says it was more of being assimilated into that lifestyle due to his family and his culture. Sex was...

Late to this thread, but I can relate to this, MC. When I found out BF was bi, I felt like, "How can I compete with a guy?" As it is, BF is only orally bi. Which just goes to show that it is about the parts in that case (and just about sex,) which is why I also find it less threatening. And...

Thanks, nyc. I would never equate poly with cheating, and I can see that is a sore spot with some - because they certainly don't want to be thought of as adulterers merely because they love multiple people. If we take the cheating out of it (which, I know we can't) then it's just me and him...

Thanks, Black Unicorn. I think I know what you're saying...that even if it was legal, people would still disagree on moral principle, or because of the financial burden. So they would still rather be cake-eaters. And even some of those who would choose to have multiple spouses, would still be...

No problem. I'm trying to be as open as possible. Originally, I was just going to be the "hotwife," and then I felt bad, because I know how much he loves me to "allow" that. But now..I have considered not seeing anyone else, because I don't know if I can handle him seeing someone else...

There are other reasons bf and wife are still together. I'm trying to be vague(ish) so no one knows who I am....;) Mostly, the cheating in their marriage has been one time things. And why they are still married comes down to finances. Today, anyway. Before that, I think it was a sense of...

Thank you, vermin. I said polyGAMY (polyandry and polygyny) are illegal (in the U.S.) not polyamory. My lack of communication skills? You mean my lack of transparency with new partners? We are very clear about safe sex, if nothing else. If someone asks if I have someone else, I am truthful...

Well, yes, vermin. It would be unfair, if another "boyfriend" wanted more than I'm giving him. As it is, one of the "others" is married and cannot actually give me much, either. So far, no one seems to want more, and I don't want that much, either. Actually, I think I may be bipolar, too...

nycindie, You are not wrong. If I'm unavailable, then he is certainly free to do as he wishes - though it hardly ever works out that I'm unavailable when he is. Lately, anyway. The biggest problem is we live some distance away from one another and my place is not usually available, nor is...

I am a married woman (separated.) My "boyfriend" is married. We are currently exploring polyamory within our relationship. (My husband and his wife do not "know" about our affair.) I'm not sure how I feel about it - though, so far, I'm the only one who has had other lovers, openly. (He...