Recent content by Clay

Thank you. Chiara stirred me up now, but I know my life decission is about Julia. I saw a lot in SEASONEDpolyAgains answer so long ago and you hit the same button. But its been about 15 years with Julia and we are life partners. What is not mentioned here is the hours we sit together and talk...

A late update. I stayed with Julia and we became NPs again. She did not get better in her health, neither could she really forgive me for betraying her with Chiara, she stresses about all aspects of her life. Things between us got better after a few months with me helping her in various ways...

I guess that's the interesting part. I would not belive the "you go only out when I go out" part is healthy to start with, but if you are fine with it, that can be okay for a while. I do not think it can be like this forever and is bound to create problems. What is the exit strategy here to gain...

Thanks a lot for your advice. Rereading everything, I see the point of your argument well. I felt the same upon returning - that I would be a better supportive friend to Julia than necessarily her partner. Obviously it would be hard to be a real support when splitting up after many years...

Hey! I'd like to ask if anyone could give me advice. This is no great consensual poly story, I fear, but probably the best place to ask for advice or judgement anyway: My NP Julia and I have a long-term mono relationship of over 10 years. I’ve always been interested in and rooted for poly, but...