Recent content by comoelmar

I agree with all the posts. For me, opening up for the first time was incredibly high drama with lots of freak outs. Ugh. I would not assume her feelings won't change again.

We settled on "Ring of Fire" by the way. Trying to come up with a relationship-appropriate song for the metamours to give is tough. Wish me and my boyfriend's wife's boyfriend good luck!

My boyfriend and his wife are celebrating a major milestone anniversary this week. I have a cordial relationship with his wife and he assures me that a celebratory gesture on my part would not be intrusive or inappropriate. His wife is carefree, funny, and pretty uninhibited. He is less so...

I think you're thoughtful analysis is right on track, tomcat27. Best of luck!

I was not objecting to the use of barriers; merely to the "no big deal" attitude that accompanied the suggestion to start using barriers. Going from fluid-bonded status to barrier status would require some emotional processing, at least for me.

To me, the important issue isn't the potential std risk from this encounter, it's the casual disregard of the very special and intimate status of being fluid-bonded. I'd be very hurt by this scenario - not necessarily by the need for barriers, but the flippant approach to returning to or...

Thank you bookbug and kdt! You both are right. And it really helps to hear your perspective. Thank you for chiming in.

Thank you for the responses. I think my biggest concern is gauging whether my emotional response is common, relatable, reasonable. I don't think it is reasonable, but I am not sure how to correct it. Writing about it helps, I suppose. None of the 5 of us created our lives as poly people. So...

I'm involved in my first poly relationship. My new partner (B) and I have been dating for about 8 months, and we are in love. B is absolutely one of the kindest people I have ever met; he is a good, good person. Both B and I are married to other people. B's marriage is in great shape; his wife...