Recent content by ConfusedFeelings

Wow- My heart hurts just from reading this! Get out of this abusive relationship! He is being so disrespectful, doesn't he have any empathy at all? I wish you all the best! (There are many men out there who will treat you with respect, love and don't make you feel so inadequate...)

Arrogance I used to have a girlfriend who wanted monogamy and eventually broke up with me because of our discrepancies. This is what I think: From what you wrote, it clearly seems to be that you view polyamory as a superior form of relationships, as a moral "development" and think that...

So sorry! Oh - my - God! I am so sorry that this is happening to you! Please leave this man, he's not poly, he's a cheating asshole and disrespects you. You can find someone so much better, someone who appreciates and respects you! I know sometimes we are so used to some behaviour that we...

Pushing too hard I was in a similar situation. I wanted poly, my gf mono. I have quite a strong opinion on this subject (partners not agreeing on poly for a long time) based on my experience. To me honest, what you are writing sounds very arrogant to me - as if Poly relationships were morally...

@Nycindie: I don't think that he said anything similar to that. ("that he believes long term relationships are not possible in polyamory" or "that he thinks that people can't change from monogamous to poly"). I absolutely understand that this is a difficult situation. Your wife was not honest...

Hello! I have been in a similar situation. I wanted a poly-relationship, my girlfriend didn't. In the end, she broke up with me before I could even start seeing other people. My gf was hurting INCREDIBLY much. It was heartbreaking to see this. She herself said, that the mere idea of being one...

Hello. First of all, I want to thank everyone here for the advice I got - this is really a unique, helpful forum... I thought I would give some update of what happened. A short summary: After 4 years relationship with my girlfriend, I started becoming interested in other women, mostly sexually...

I find myself in a similar situation. I wanted to open our relationship (polygamy/polyamory) after 4 years relationship, but my GF was very, very unpleased about this. What I personally find strange, is that you don't seem to give your husband a "chance". I think you should try to have more...

First of all I must say that I don't have any experience with poly-relationships. I am interested in a poly-relationship, but my girlfriend has made it very clear that she will not stay in a poly-relationship with me, and now it's kind of up to me to decide how we will go on. I think your ideas...

@bookbug: To be honest, I never really thought so much about my girlfriend having relationships with other men and how that would be to me, mainly, cause she didn't express any interest in having that. I must say that I don't really know how that would be for me. I think what might be...

Such a complicated thing :/ Wow, thank you a LOT for all these replies... I've been in a lot of forums, never got so sophisticated answers... thank you!! @london: It's both, sexual and emotional. She says it's completely okay for her that I have sexual fantasies with other people and that I...

Hello! I am new to this forum and hope I can find some advice here. Sorry for my English, I am not a native speaker and not so fluent at it, but I hope I can still make myself understandable. Me (24) and my gf (21years) have been together for 4 years. We've always had a great relationship...