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Thanks! Those links are great, I've begun the slow process of panning through them all to find the most applicable bits. It's been fun! You all have built a great resource here and I look forward to being a part of this community when I am able!

@jimmyfun You talk a lot of natural consequences, but that is not the scenario you described. Creating a fake consequence so that you can tailor your situation is manipulative. Also, I do not believe there is "no room for jealousy" If you are a student of psych you should understand that...

^^ that seems shady. I don't like that approach at all. If my GF tried that with me I would call it quickly as a ploy to incite jealousy and try to deal with her hurt emotional state. After that though I would question her intentions since that is a very insidious and potentially damaging...

You sound pretty reasonable, and so does his response. What would be more concerning to me is how much of this you are shouldering. You've communicated a boundary (time needed to feel like your relationship is in tact) and it is a perfectly normal one. He has stated his concern over that...

Take the time to write down where your jealousy is coming from mostly so you can approach them with a good idea of what it is that you are actually feeling. Your partners love you, so I am sure they will respect how you are feeling, and that you are feeling jealous here. Perhaps some...

This thread left me with a few questions: Have you talked to him about it at all? If so what was his reaction (you may find he is open to a gentle probing into this subject if it's not too accusatory)? Are you feeling some form of jealousy here? If so how is it manifesting (I am sensing some...

Hi I'm new to this site, but have already had the pleasure of discussing some relationship concerns in a separate thread. Seems like a really nice community you all have here, thanks for welcoming me in!

Thanks again everyone. You all are very helpful and surprising active on this thread. I did not anticipate so many replies. I'll do my best to respond to all of them. Magdlyn: I'm not familiar with the 5 love languages, but my GF is very attentive to me both physically and emotionally...

That's an interesting perspective, thank you for the quick responce. I'll start with this bit: "No amount of trying to control or police her behavior will address your discomfort with that fact that she wants to share more than just her body with another person besides you. Your state of...

Woah so much responce! First off thank you all for taking the time to write. I'll do my best to answer the questions you asked... kdt26417: I would not like to hear the specifics of dates. Saying "we're going to the movies and then back to his place where I am going to use the Hitachi on his...

Maybe I mis communicated. This isn't DaDt. We tell each other when a new relationship is started, discuss what is OK with that partner and what level of detail we want to know about that relationship. So there is a lot of conversation regarding the relationship, but there are boundaries to...

I'll try to be brief here and provide more details if they are needed. My partner and I are newish to being poly, we've been together 3 years and throughout we've both had other partners to play with but this is the first relationship either of us have ever had where we successfully had that...