Recent content by CTF

It’s been a good long minute since I’ve been here, but seeing this thread brought back so many memories. As a dyed-in-the-wool mono, myself, I’d like to mention that whether OP is truly poly, or just experiencing infatuation, or whatever else you want to identify it as, is irrelevant. The fact...

Not at all. As crude as it may seem, there's no denying that the discrimination that poly folks claim to receive, is often compared to the discrimination that homosexuals face. And while it's true that the conservative right likes to lump a lot of groups they oppose together, they really don't...

What I mean is, that even if I believe their sincerity (in this case, loving infinitely), I am not compelled to believe that what they're feeling is accurate. Now, if that makes me a jerk, then so be it. I'm not out to convince anyone that my way is the only true way, and I certainly don't...

Actually, a feeling is a noun (person, place, thing or idea). But you're confusing the issue. How we experience something does not define what it is, or what "quantity" (for lack of a better word) it exists in. Who you love is probably not who I love, what makes you happy isn't necessarily what...

While I won't speak for all monos in that regard, I will say that when I deny that love is infinite, it's in regards to those who claim it is, is IS. Not once have I seen someone say "love is infinite FOR ME", poly of otherwise. It's always been expressed as though it were a fact that those of...

Well, I'd say fire is a bit of a stretch. And while I hope that comparing the poly struggle, to what homosexuals have had to endure was more of a tongue and cheek reference on your part, I'm sure they could do a much better job highlighting their true hurdles for a proper perspective. So I won't...

Does that make you the pot or the kettle? Sorry, but when one group refers to the other as unnatural, controlling, codependent, brainwashed, gullible, unloving, and are accused of being unable to let go of religious and/or societal influence, they don't get to play the victim.

No, I didn't get the impression that you were denying my experience. So no worries there. As for my remark about everyone having their limits, please know that I wasn't making a generalization about poly people, but rather people in general. Myself included. Granted, there are exceptions to...

Alright look, I'm sorry if my replies were a bit short. With sometimes 3 or 4 different people commenting at once, I'm not able to get out a full reply. Not to mention, this is an extremely sensitive subject to me, so I often get a bit worked up, and can't quite muster a coherent thought. But...

Of course the results are not guaranteed. However, in terms of likelihood, the results are more favored. Like lunabunny said a few posts up, there is intent that plays an important role. And the point about the pie graph was simply to illustrate that something's got to give. We all have our...

Not quantifiable in the sense you described previously, of course not. We're not talking about units of measurement, but terms of "more" or "less", absolutely. Shallow? Not at all. Quite the opposite in fact. Calling something love, yet, not being willing to express it would be shallow &...

I never said it can grow infinitely that way. I never said it can grow infinitely at all. Nor do I think that one should give away all of their resources to anyone. Especially if you have kids/parents. And just so we're clear, none of what I'm saying is meant for advice on what anyone SHOULD do...

Oh come now, you know that only physical objects can fill a bucket right? You seem to forget that I had previously said that "quantifiable" may not be the right word. Now, even if the concept of love is infinite, that's not how we operate. The emotions themselves are what's important, as well...

I think I'm a little lost on this too. Because from here, it seems like you're suggesting that relationships are not necessary for love, and vice versa. Which would then make love rather meaningless. In which case, why take such exception? If love is just some overly abundant concept so far...

Obviously, there's a fundamental disconnect. While quantifying may not be the right word, it's certainly a resource that has to be manifested. Often with things like time, and sometimes money. This isn't to suggest the attitude like "he bought me a car, therefore he loves me", but it's easy to...