Recent content by cuddlecakes

If only because kids don't know what they should or shouldn't say around other adults they interact with.

Yeah... No, I was in a primary relationship, and she had a bunch of other secondary partners. Then I had a secondary partner for about two years, and she got another primary partner, then she broke up with me, but we are still good friends. Then the primary started breaking our agreement and...

Oh wow, I didn't see that there were responses. Thanks for taking the time to read and respond. Oh definitely. Hmm, true. I do feel pulled in more than one direction at a time. Yeah, I agree. Huh. It feels like I do. It feels like I'm undesirable and invisible. I guess that's not...

Ironically, I first encountered the concept as a homeschooled fundamentalist Christian. We read a book on "courtship dating", and it said "It's OK to date more than one person at a time as long as everyone knows about it", and a lightbulb went off in my head. (Of course, their idea of dating...

Nov 24, 2015, so it's been … almost 7 years since that last post. Damn. That relationship itself only lasted 4.5 years. You got a new forum and everything, but my post is still here. So, I got over her after that, but I never really recovered from the breakup. I've been … wounded ever since...

So, for the record, the break never ended. We tried to see each other maybe a month later, and had a really nice day together, like old times, but then tried to talk and it just turned into a stupid fight about nothing and she stormed off and we haven't seen each other since. We were still...

She's the one who wrote them down. Yep. She first said she wanted to change them 4 months ago, and then again the other day while fighting, and I'm like "You've had 4 months! What have you done about it in that time??"

Meaning I couldn't bring myself to do it. I just said things like "we should stop seeing each other" without committing. A day or two later I made it official that "we are taking a break" (whatever that means). I don't know, but I don't.

So then she was repeatedly going back to this other guy who is not poly, emotionally manipulates her, and doesn't respect our relationship, and after spending a weekend together with her depressed about him the whole time, and then going back to him yet again when he changed his mind, I got fed...

Well that's the point of the website. http://marriedmansexlife.com/2014/06/is-monogamy-making-you-unhaaaaappy/ Usually this stuff is for single guys to attract and bang a million women, but his approach is to use the same concepts to keep married couples together. I wish there were an...

So much of it is misogynistic/MRA/redpill bullshit that I kind of intentionally ignored it, but the problems in my relationship have made it pretty apparent that there's some truth to it. The least annoying version I've found is this couple's...

You don't care if your partner is dating someone who doesn't respect your relationship?

That's the premise of the thread, yes. Am I? Perhaps. If yes: Because her behavior is somewhat understandable? Because she apologized immediately afterward and tried to make things right and has been making an effort to communicate when I am upset? Because I feel like breaking off...

So, this was a year ago. I'm curious how things have worked out. As a gentle, cuddly, loving, vanilla-horny man with low self-esteem, this would probably not work out well for me. :) One girl did get me to be more aggressive with her by being playfully aggressive with me first, biting me or...

She was with a group of friends/acquaintances, broke off from the group with one of them, riding in his car to his place, hung out as friends, didn't expect anything to happen until it did. "I did tell him about you. I guess I should have messaged you at that point." I can understand not...