Recent content by Cuppycake

It's true that the army would really crack down on him (both of them) for all of this, but I don't want to go that route. If I did he would likely be discharged and that would effect his security clearance for his civilian job. Obviously I won't be getting any child support if he loses his job...

We don't own our home, so that's good in a way. Basically I'm just going to be taking the kids and moving in with my parents while I try to get back to school to finish my degree and find a job. I'm lucky to have such loving parents who are in a position to help me. They are both retired, but in...

Thanks guys. No, I am not hoping he will change his mind. I do still love him, but I realize that he is toxic to me and I fear his negative attitude and emotional roller-coaster will start to effect the kids. Despite the agreements and understandings I thought we had come to when we began on...

Well, it finally happened. Hubby has been in a crappy mood because he doesn't have the money to go see his GF for her birthday this weekend or to even send her something nice. Our finances are extremely tight right now. He's been very quick to anger for a few weeks. I tried to be supportive by...

Kids do get very possessive, and it's their right to be. You're only a kid for so long and it's important for the kids and the parents to take the time, make the memories and form the bonds that will shape their children as people for the rest of their lives. I would imagine that your daughter...

He is busy and sometimes he does get closed off. What's really bothering me is the lack of physical contact and when he does touch me it just feels awkward, like he doesn't want to do it. Since he's been home every time he's touched me it has been in an almost "silly" way, like the boob honking...

After being out of town for a few days my husband is displaying some behaviors that have me feeling a bit worried and uncomfortable. He came home Sunday morning and spent most of the day half playing with the kids and texting with his free hand. I cooked dinner and when I told him it was ready...

I know that you've already received a lot of advice, and good advice at that. I just felt compelled to comment because what you are describing is pretty much what my husband is doing now. He is married to me, we have two very young kids that need a lot of care and attention, he has a demanding...

We are a single income family, I stay home with the kids (3 years and 3 months old.) I make a little bit of money now and then grooming pets, but it's a negligible amount and is usually used on a night I don't feel like cooking, lol. I appreciate all the insight and will likely ask him to sit...

Lately we've been finding ourselves a little cash strapped. Hubs has never been very good with money and I just sort of took over family finances over time. he's been saying he needs to spend more time with her, something that is great in principle but difficult in practice. She lives about 500...

No, I wouldn't say that Bean and I are in love. We enjoy each other's company but I don't hold romantic feelings for her and I'm fairly certain she doesn't have them for me. We're more friends with benefits I guess. You're right though, there's enough "he said, she said" and I probably just...

When Bravo and Bean started seeing each other it was a secret affair. He and I had some problems stemming from money, work and parenting stress. There were a lot of assumptions and miscommunications between us that caused us to harbor a lot of doubt and resentment. Anyway, during that first year...

And thank you for taking the time to write your post. It made me think and honestly made me feel a lot better. ;)

I'm not an "experienced poly", if there could even be such a thing. I'm very new to this and so are my partners. That being said, I think that what you need to do is sit by yourself and examine your feelings. Are you trying to be open to poly relationships because it's something he wants you to...

I'm curious how things like child custody and/or support were determined and how you managed that. Also, who claims the kids on their taxes? I'd also be concerned about marital property and how that is split. Who "legally" owns your house, vehicles, financial accounts, etc? And if you were to...