Recent content by Czeverny90

Yeah, while I appreciate the poly "cause" I think I'm really okay with monogam-ish situations. Less stressful for me on You do realize you're ASSUMING a lot of things just by bits of information? Also, it is not appropriate to call out people on supposed "mistakes" in general, all the more...

I have no idea to be honest :( I think I am open to a mostly monogamous relationship with very occasional extra-dyadic sex and only for fun/experience of course not because they're sick of the relationship or something, otherwise that's another issue lol

Yeah it's just that he was unemployed when he moved here of course, and with no many savings. Anyway, yeah it might have been wiser to try and do that but I'm a firm believer of the motto "what's done is done" :) Wow that's a lot of questions lol we moved to a new place together. He's planning...

Definitely that was one of the issues, but we decided to live together because it was easier that way on so many other levels (financial, practical) and he doesn't know anyone here. Also he wanted to live together, for me it was all very new because it was my first time to live with a partner...

Yes, I'll talk to my therapist about that! She thinks people are dynamic so it's just important that they show change, which I believe too...but I guess what my partner changed wasn't enough. Anyway thank you for your insight

Yeah I don't think it was healthy for me...I think I just need to tell myself to be strong and that I'll get over this. It's even harder when living together I guess. Thank you for your comment!

There's some sort of intrusive thought in my mind right now saying that maybe I should've just been happy he was feeling better as he had his hook-up instead of feeling so bad and breaking up. Sorry maybe this is not the place to vent this much. I am not sure about the rules here.

Thank you so much! You're right...I need to accept that I am feeling awful now, but I'll feel better one day sooner than later

Thank you. It means a lot reading this right now, just because I don't feel strong enough to tell anyone of my friends/family yet, but I do feel the need to be comforted so thank you.

Yes, when that need is met he recovers. Isn't that some kind of addiction? I don't know if I spoke too early to him, but probably not, considering it was hurting me...so it seems like we actually have broken up now and I feel like everything is falling apart right now.

Sorry for the misunderstanding, but I am not actually poly, at least not in practice. I am in some sort of open relationship. Still, I have had therapy to manage my emotions (not necessarily related to the relationship) for a while now, and I have read lots and lots of things online. I think...

Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. He's 30, same as me. At first I thought it was indeed connected to high libido, but I've come to realize it is an addiction in a way. But then again, I start thinking that sometimes I masturbate out of a mental need, rather than physical need or...

Yes, I think it's a small addiction too, but none of the therapists he has seen seemed to point that out, and then again they say that addictions hinder your daily life...if you need to smoke marijuana once a month or every two months how big is that addiction? these are the things I ask myself...

I am really new to any of this too, but I think the three of you (or you and your partner) should come to an agreement that allows you to spend quality time with your partner. It is extremely normal to feel neglected in a situation such as yours, who wouldn't? I understand your partner sees the...

Hello everyone, I was just wondering...what kind of agreement (also, how do you define your relationship?) do you have with your partner(s) if any? Did poly come easy for you or was it a struggle at first and why/how?