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    Talked to Mono Partner - Totally Heartbroken :''(

    Thanks for these replies everyone - has made me feel far less alone. If it wasn't obvious, my nervous system was hella flooded when I wrote that post - feeling more centered now thankfully. I hear you and respectfully disagree about analogies. I agree that mono/non-mono is it's own situation...
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    Talked to Mono Partner - Totally Heartbroken :''(

    I posted on here a few months back about preparing to have a conversation about poly with my mono partner of 4 years. I talked to her the other day and it went so so awfully. I wanted to have a broad relationship check in about what our future looks like - I checked in on the subject of having...
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    Starting the conversation - Differentiating between Adjustment and Coercion?

    Thanks for this question, Fallen Angelina. I’m not her first partner, she has had regular sexual partners before with whom she described her sexual relationships as transactional, sex being something she was engaging in as an exchange for other needs she got met through those relationships...
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    Starting the conversation - Differentiating between Adjustment and Coercion?

    Perhaps I misspoke - when I say it would be unanticipated it’s solely based on what she’s expressed and how she’s self identified up until this point. There isn’t ambiguity for me around my willingness to adjust to her desire for other sexual partners if things were to shift that way. I’m...
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    Starting the conversation - Differentiating between Adjustment and Coercion?

    Thanks for providing these resources - Eve Rickert's article and PolySecure. This article is very clarifying and is a solid reminder of the need to be both open and critical about the Poly writings I'm coming across. And the quote is super resonant for me, both around navigating my own...
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    Starting the conversation - Differentiating between Adjustment and Coercion?

    Hi all - this is my first post on this site. Very grateful that this forum exists! So I am a cis man currently in a het monogamous relationship with my partner of 4 years. Before we got together I had been reading the Ethical Slut and had gotten very curious and inspired about poly - hadn't...
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