Recent content by dancingalone

hello, how's it going?

My best advice is to call the nearest rape trauma center or abuse refuge center. They will help you find the right kind of help(therapy and support) to overcome this trauma, and maintain your relationship with your SO. These centers are targeted specifically toward the abuse you've suffered...

What ever you do, DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT, give up custody of your children. From the little information I read, I would suggest that go straight to the nearest abuse shelter and look for help there. You may not need to to stay in the shelter but they may be able to help with resources beyond...

You're right, it's time to fold, but don't let him take the house away from you. You both bought it so sell it and split it. It's your hard work too. Don't leave it behind. it's not worth being manipulated over but you deserve to enjoy your investment. At least now you know who loves you...

It does sound a serious breach of communication. Perhaps the two of you need to sit down before anything else goes on and figure out some rules of engagement. Let her know, gently, without accusation, what you went through, so the two of you can figure out what you need to avoid it in the...

I keep hearing that, unfortunately, the only one I've met happens to be married to my mother. lol SOOO not apropriate. And he has qualities that I'm not looking for. And I am very much like my mother in a lot of ways. I know I need someone that is happy to help with out fighting me about...

Thank you:)

Someone who loves you does not treat you like trash. Nor does someone who loves you treat the people you love like trash. From what you wrote, you've followed the rules the both of you set up, whereas he hasn't. Counseling is a good idea, even if it's just you, because you don't want this to...

Stubborn,independant, accustomed to making all the decisions,(mostly because there's no one else to), and more than a little contridictory in what I want. I know that it would be easier to take care of everything if I had help, but not having to argue over how to take care of things has it's...

Probably because I can't manage that either. I never thought I was any crazier than anyone else but nearly ten years alone will make you think different. lol Seriously, I know I'm difficult but I refuse to believe it's impossible to find a good balance, but obviously I'm not going to find it...

First and foremost, you have the right to NOT be exposed to an STD, or be at risk of it. You have the right to act to protect your own health, that's part of what condoms are for. So for starters, ask him to use condoms when he is with you, because you no longer know where he has been. As for...

LOL okay trying again...New here I think I tried to start a thread in the wrong place, lol. So I, the great technodufus, am going to try again. Anyway, it seem normal to give a bit of background in here. I'm a single parent, and haven't been in any kind of relationship for years. I've...

Hi, it seems the norm in here to give a little background, so here goes: I'm a single parent, haven't had a real relationship in years and have been circling around the concept of polyamoury for a while. I've been looking through the threads in here and there seems to be quite a few people in...