Recent content by danieheartsu

I actually never said M would have to stop seeing S. I would never make her choose like that. I am afraid if things end between me and S I will also lose M.

This is so frustrating and disheartening. the more I hear from people, on here and in real life, that S is probably only seeing me because of M, the more real it is starting to look. :( Before all three of us decided to be a triad, everything was working smoothly. M and I were doing our own...

Dageri, I have been feeling like S is just going along with it because she initially was in a relationship with M and M and I were already in a relationship where we were trying poly. We both agreed it is something that suits not only our relationship, but makes the most sense for us. This idea...

First off, good morning everyone. Secondly, I have an issue I am struggling to fix, get over or understand I guess. I am not quite sure how you would put it. So quick back story: Me+M and M+S became a triad with Me and S starting our relationship about 8 months ago. For awhile the going was...

I agree that I just need to be patient and let things play out. I know I do need to be better at communicating my concerns to M and S instead of justtrying to figure things out on my own. They are there to support me so I should let them. Thank you for the advise everyone!

The problem isn't that I don't have feelings for S, it is that I do and my brain is still trying to tellme that I shouldn't let it just happen because it is condition to think you can not love more than one person at a time. When in fact my heart completely disagrees with this. I know that there...

I am having some difficulties sorting out my emotions. I am in my first ever poly relationship and overall it is working out just fine. I am building a strong relationship to the new person, S. We have our own relationship aside from me and M and M and S, along with our triad. What I am having...

Well me and M live together and S is at our place about 5 nights a week. I have no problem with this seeing as I get to spend time with S as well. This is, however where needing alone time comes into play. I want alone time with S so I can get to know her more independantly of M. I want M and S...

I totally agree with both of you, this is 4 different relationships. Each one has their own personality. S and I try to schedule time with each other and we are also the facilitators of alone time with M. M is just in the NRE phase of the triad and wants both of us all the time. I see where she...

Hello all, so as my title says, is it ok to ask for alone time? Let me first say that this closed triad is very new, like 3 weeks new. Initially it was a v, Me & M and M & S. After getting to know S, I started having feelings for her. We all three sat down, talked, and decided to try and have...

I can't shake the feeling that I am a big disappointment to my partner M. We currently have a V with S. All of this is new to all three of us and we are trying to find our groove. I know what M wants out of life. Ideally she would love to have a triad with me and S. The problem is I don't think...

Whenever I read this advise it all sounds so common sense! Why didn't I think of it myself? Guess I was just over thinking it, or thinking too much about S's feelings and not my own. I had a conversation last night with M and She told me to just relax and be myself and if S has a problem with it...

Thanks tenk! I will probably just slowly start getting back to how I normally am and see how it goes. Hoping for the best!

Thank you for the advise! My issue is the second one you mentioned. I just feel like I am not being respected by S in the same matter that I do her. I thought about just stopping and be my normal self, M even suggested that. The problem there is hat S will turn to M with her complaints about it...

Hello all! This is my very first post, I just joined today actually! So I am having some difficulties at home. My main partner, M, and I have great communication. There is nothing we don't talk about. Anytime there are questions, issues etc we take time to talk them through and come to an...