Recent content by DazednConfused

Where is the line between healthy and...? Some of you know my current disaster. My most recent question is, how do you know if it's polyamory? I was in my first true relationship. My wife Nora decided she was poly. We have since gone our separate ways. Please do not get me wrong. I am not...

Well, from my shoes, definitely awe-inspiring. You guys just go to show poly can work when it's done right. Obviously, some of us haven't been so lucky.

I willl always be in awe of the strength of all three of you. I am so excited for all of you.

Just had to say congrats.

Yeah, I was pretty pissed off, too. It even got into, "What's his wife gonna say? You know she wants to see you." The conversation got ugly. It was mind-boggling to even deal with that day. The funny thing is, when I did call him, he obviously knew I was serious. I told him, since he fucked her...

Ariakas, I completely agree with both points. I almost feel like it's turned into some sort of war of wills. I keep telling her I won't see her until therapy; she pushes; I fall off the proverbial wagon. I know I'm screwing up by seeing her. I don't deny it at all. Last Tuesday was Mom's wake...

Thanks, guys. I really do think she needs help. I've spared you a lot of the details, but every day is a new trauma/drama. I tried my best, but I just have to back off. She keeps asking me to go out, or come over, and every time I put my foot down. But then I get weak and see her. It usually...

Well, it's been a lifetime since I updated. It's been nothing but an ever-worsening trainwreck. Nora ruined things with Nick by screwing around with his best friend. She has been dating crazy guys from ashleymadison.com, too. My mom passed away on October 8th. Nora managed to be with Nick...

Thanks, RP. I agree that it would probably be hugely helpful to her, if not now, at least in the long run. I am certain that she would find some great mentors here that could help her on her journey. No doubt all of you would be gentle, especially knowing what she's going through.

Thanks, LW. I did buy The Ethical Slut, and it did help me a lot. I haven't finished it yet. Can you suggest another forum for her that she might not feel has been biased by my story?

I wanted to say thanks again for all your support, and add what might be my final update. Friday was fine, with all four of us and some other friends. I got too drunk, I suppose because I had anxiety, knowing 'the talk' was still on the table for Sunday. Saturday was a long story, and I'll...

Yeah, I know. My aunt already called me out on it a few weeks back. I just said we were working on some problems. It's just, with Mom sick, I really don't want to add any more upset. If I can keep things cool until my family goes home (they're early birds) I just think it'd be better.

I don't disagree. I'm just not there, yet. One additional detail: my mom, aunt and a family friend are going to the same event tonight. I don't know if we'll run into them or not, but my family isn't stupid when it comes to this kind of thing. In light of my mom's current problems, I need to be...

Thanks, as always. As for Maya, I'm confident she knows he's cheating, just from what she's told me, and I suspect she may have an idea who with. That's really her business. They've had issues with his infidelity long before this started. There's no sense rubbing salt in her wounds. I'm...

We're still working on it and talking. I actually convinced her (briefly) that doing some lurking/reading here might help us. I don't think it's spoiled teen, so much as NRE that keeps screwing things up. I do love her, and I've been pretty picky about who I love. The whole damn thing is so hard.