Recent content by dcperson

Hi Galagirl, an update for you: I have ended my engagement/relationship with Brian. I also asked Aaron for some space but have not fully severed contact with him. I left the city and am staying with friends for the next ten days as I figure things out, which provides all of us more space. It...

Thanks again, GG. I really appreciate your wisdom and the incredible amount of time and thoughtfulness you would devote to the emotional situation of a stranger. I just spent my first night alone from Brian to create space for myself. It’s provided me more energy and clarity to provide myself...

Thank you so much. Your message really comforts me. It's very hard to imagine a new life apart from Brian, and likely Aaron also. I'm not even sure that's what I want. There is a part of me that wants to try continuing as a triad on more equal footing, with more independence among all three...

Thank you, Galagirl. To answer your initial question, by "his" I meant Brian. More specifically, while he initially encouraged my 1:1 time with Aaron, things changed when things started moving too quickly for his comfort, i.e., when he witnessed Aaron express some preference for me during triad...

Thank you Galagirl, this is very helpful. Thank you for the encouragement. Brian has repeatedly expressed support for my 1:1 time with Aaron, but his attitude around my feelings for him did make it difficult to arrange. Most recently, when we were discussing 1:1 time, Brian proposed that we ask...

I’m a 30-something year old gay man who has been dating my primary partner (Brian) for 6 years. He is my first serious relationship. We have been open for three years. I met our new partner (Aaron) in June during Pride Month. Brian had already been seeing Aaron regularly. I felt an instant...