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Hi Joanne- My wife has also found a lot of support here: http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/

What you're feeling is quite normal I think. You and Dave have history, but no children and aren't married (I'm assuming), and all that you really need to consider is how you want to live your life. Chemistry happens! - Will you regret not acting on your feelings for Roommate B in 10 years...

There is nothing wrong with you. You are normal, and your feelings are justified. It seems to me that at least part of your sense of self worth is wrapped up in how she feels about you, and about other men. From what you describe, it sounds like she's truly in love with you. Cherish that...

Sounds like a very familiar scenario. Does she suffer from abandonment issues?

In the end rest assured that it will all work out. Do you feel she will eventually abandon you? Or that you aren't enough for her?

I'm sorry Joanne. That can't be easy. I really hope it all works out for you. It took Debbie a long time, but over the last few years she's grown to admire the Indian gal. Debbie's seen the conversations we've had and has been impressed with her. I am horrible at reading Debbie's mind, so I...

I don't like having any job, but I do like having money! I've got an automated trading system set up and the goal is to have it sit silently and put my money to work for me making more money with only minimal intervention from me. It's getting close, but needs more development. In my spare...

Sure Joanne, I'm happy to share, and I hope that it helps you. There's some context that I haven't shared, of course. Debbie's father died of pancreatic cancer and it hit her hard. She fell into a deep depression and getting through the days and weeks were very difficult. I picked up as much...

Excellent points! My perspective is my own, you're right, and people often tell me it's way out there. In the interest of full disclosure, had I shown up with a new girlfriend when my son was one, Debbie would have left my ass, quickly, walking out the door with David in one arm and a lawyer...

I think the consensus is very clear :D The ladies here are certainly more expert than I am on what Joanne should do with her husband. I've been looking around this forum and I must say I'm VERY impressed with how strong, helpful, and smart the members are - particularly the ladies. It's...

Honestly, the more I think about it, that's a key question. How would you feel about asking this woman to babysit so you and your husband can date from time to time? How would your husband feel about asking this woman to babysit? Would this woman be willing to do this kind of thing? Getting...

I do agree with Mrs Cat and Mrs Acres. I assumed that Joanne's husband was helping already and that expectations and roles between them were clear. If not, then that's a problem for sure. No one can meet expectations if they don't know what they are. Joanne, PLEASE do tell your husband what...

Hmm, yea that's a super tough situation! I have no idea how most men feel, but I can give you my own perspective. I definitely had issues when I wasn't getting enough, or when it was more "by the numbers" and boring - it made me feel a lot of emotional distance. My own sexual appetite is...

Thanks Joanne. I've not been the best husband! Much of my hurtful behavior has been driven by my abandonment issues that I've never dealt with. The more I learn, the more I see it. It's no excuse for hurting my wife time and time and time again, and I'm really thankful she hasn't left me...

It's an excellent question. I'm starting to believe strongly that my sense of security should come from within. Relying on others for some sense of security that's seriously lacking in my life is doomed to failure and pain. That said, I do love having close connections (plural) with women. I...