Recent content by Derbylicious

I guess there’s no better person to answer what happened to Derby than Derby herself. (I hope you don’t mind, RP). My poly life is most definitely over. There were a few years in there of such extreme change and loss and pain that it’s something I wouldn’t invite into my life again. I live a...

I'm probably the worst person to ask that question of, since I don't "look" for people to have relationships with. Rather, I am just open to the idea of letting it happen, if it happens.

You have a say here. Tell them what your requirements are. Put a time limit on how long you're willing to work through this before you choose to walk away. The way things are going at the moment, you are not being treated as a full, living, breathing human being with real feelings. Her feelings...

Why are you looking for people who will love both of you, and not just her, when you readily admit that you have no desire to be with anyone else? It's quite possible for one person in a couple to be poly and the other not to be. Relationships are about things being fair, not about things being...

This whole story is raising a bunch of red flags for me. How are your relationship issues going to end up impacting other outside partners. The other people who you are going to be getting involved with are also full, human people with needs and feelings as well. One night stands with a DADT are...

I just read through this from the beginning and it seems that you've already done what I was going to suggest. Have a relationship with him on your terms rather than waiting on him to decide what those terms are going to be. A friendship where sex may or may not be on the table at any particular...

Clarity reached. Now comes the time to communicate it appropriately. All of a sudden everything makes sense again and it will all be OK. Getting to the bottom of things sure is a lot of work.

We do all have our ups and downs but for most of us things don't go horribly wrong. For many of us being poly works really well and makes for more authentic relationships. Your wife cheated and then tried to justify it, that's so far from what poly actually is. Poly is all about communication...

January really doesn't seem like it's being a good month for anyone! We should all have a do-over!

Thanks LR :) It's good to hear from you.

Excellent. I love baby snuggles!

It's a work thing, just me.

Right now that's more help to her than you can possibly imagine! I will have my car with me so driving to Langley is something I can do (given directions).

I'm pretty good at keeping my freak-outs off the internet. So point taken there. As for the baby stuff, that makes us all feel crazy and out of control. One day you will sleep again, and then it all gets easier to cope with. I don't say easy. Kids continually change and provide brand new and...

Can they go to a hotel? You shouldn't be kicked out of your own space if you don't want to leave. If you have other plans and are going to be out anyway, great! If not he needs to find an alternative plan. It's your house too.