Recent content by DevBilbo

It's funny that you bring that up, because this is nothing new. When we were actively seeing each other, I would go through this like every week or so. She was very coquettish towards me, and I would go through these periods where I thought everything was crashing and burning. But when I did...

I know that I must sound obsessed here, but I doubt I sound obsessed to her. After all, I haven't had any contact with her in 6 years, gotten married, and had a life outside of her. My intention is to just say something along the lines of, "Hey, how have you been? It's been a while." As for...

I know it's speculative; everything is right now. After the last time we saw each other, she did eventually reach out to me (4 months later), so I guess I'm not conviced she's going to blow me off. Plus I'm the married one; she might just not feel good about contacting me because of that to...

Just a bit of an update on this thread, and what I'm going through right now if anyone is interested and has any further input. I haven't attempted the Facebook post yet; I'm incredibly afraid to. I have been over what I want to say to her, but I don't have a good strategy if she doesn't...

Definitely agree. When I started a relationship with my wife, it was just us. We didn't do much anymore, we just hung out together. It's great that I can feel that way with her and that we have that kind of relationship, but I realize lately that we gave up a lot too, me more than her. I...

Yeah, I do feel creepy, but then again, I always have felt creepy with her. I always had to hound her to get in touch with her. And then it was like no big deal afterwards. I think it's just the way she is, I always got the impression that her good friends had the same problem with her. I'm...

I have a hard time with the "forget the person and move on" approach to life and relationships. I disagree with it on a fundamental level. It assumes that (1) what you have with someone else is finite and specific, and (2) that what you have with someone else is non-unique and can be replaced...

My wife is incredibly jealous and protective of me. She tends to view every other woman (that she deems to be attractive) as a threat. I don't like this, I tell her so, but its not going away anytime soon.

I would love to be open with my wife about this, but I just can't. She has her own issues about me. She's also kind of a hypocrite about this, because she still has an ongoing relationship platonic friendship with one of her exes, yet she gets upset at the possibility of me having any contact...

No, she doesn't, and no she wouldn't like it if she knew. I realize that its not nice of me, but I feel very strongly about it. The only other people I talked to about it are my parents, and they, without batting an eye, both said I should contact this girl. They're position was that, just...

If I don't ask, I'll never know if she doesn't consider me a friend. I feel I could get over it if I knew this. It's just hard for me to accept that this is a possibility. As for me and my wife, everything is great. Yes, I do wish we were more socially active, but aside from that I have no...

Galagirl, I'm definitely not sure what specifically is bothering me. The main themes that I've dealt with in my life are as follows: social anxiety, feeling like I didn't matter to anyone, feeling like no one wanted me intimately, failure to maintain relationships and to build relationships...

My biggest regret is that I never got a chance to know her on a deeper level. I feel like the "trying to have a relationship" part got in the way of this. The few times that I can remember in which I lightened up a little, I could talk to her about life, etc. I miss that. I never got enough...

Thanks for your reply, it helps a lot. To maybe answer some of your questions about what I am feeling specifically, it bothers me when people leave my life, probably a lot more than other people. I don't form a lot of relationships with people; each one feels hard fought and genuine to me. So...

Hi. My topic is not that much of a Polyamory topic, but I'm tired of posting on relationship advice forums about my problems, only to have people shout at me that I'm having an "emotional affair" behind my wife's back, and then calling me names, etc. I sincerely love my wife; I don't think...