Recent content by Devotpohats

So we met up with this other polyamorous couple (A, the girl and J, the guy) on Friday for lunch, which lasted three hours including a walk along the waterfront. Everyone, including my usually shy fiance (M) got along really well. The subject of poly never really came up, but we all talked about...

If it makes you feel any better, I suffer from an intermittent anxiety disorder which expresses itself very similarly to what you've described. Even during the few weeks that I've been getting to know and understand poly, I've reached points of ambivalence regarding the whole thing. I think...

I'd probably call it a combination of the two. Rather, I'd probably say that some are the former and others are the latter. There have been a number of people with whom I've had a great deal of sexual tension while I've been in a relationship. More commonly though I just become close to...

I'm not really a guy who has ever had trouble talking about his feelings. At least, I never thought of myself that way until the last year or two when I realized that I've always been suppressing the fact that I'm poly. I guess the problem was that I never realized that it was okay for someone...

This has given me a lot of food for thought. My partner may decide to stay mono, although she has the option to develop outside relationships if she wishes. We're taking things very slowly as I open up, in any case. Keeping eachother as informed as possible will be very important as we do...

Actually, when asking the question I hadn't actually considered honesty regarding sexual issues specifically. One of the first pre-requisites my partner and I established was that any outside relationships would be both emotionally and sexually transparent. i.e. my partner will be intimately...

Thanks guys. I think making that distinction between honesty and privacy is one that I was failing to observe. It seems that most of your answers are in the same vein. In fairness, I had no pre-conceived notions about what might or might not have been considered a secret in any future...

Hi guys. This is my first post here, and I'm very new to the poly community. Forums like yours have been hugely helpful for both myself and my partner, and I can't thank you all enough for that. My fiance and I have been together for about three and a half years, and over that time I've...