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:) That works too... I also wanted to add that you shouldn't be afraid to give direction. Like, I'm sure the way this new person is touching you is different from how you're used to being touched (by yourself or long-term significant other). So if there are things you can identify that she can...

I just want to chime in and say that I don't assume your issue has anything to do with somehow mentally not being on board with poly. When I was single and dating a few years ago, I started having sex with a guy who seemed into me but similarly couldn't seem to maintain an erection. At first we...

maybe I might have been a bit harsh in my last post. I guess it's hard to know how to start navigating these boundaries and situations when we live in a monogamous culture... Anyway, probably the best way to encourage him to be honest is to make him really believe you're okay with him seeing...

hmm If your guy isn't willing to communicate openly, be honest with you and put work into your relationship, I don't think it's going to work. It really sounds like he's going to do whatever he's going to do, despite what you might feel. So if I were you I'd decide if I'm really okay with that...