Recent content by disarmedheart

There is such thing as jealousy (there is a word for it, after all :P), but its root lies in fear. I'm of the opinion that any given action/thought/feeling is born either of fear or of love.

Poly or alone, this is exactly how I find myself feeling tonight, after deciding that I can't play the monogamous part in a relationship with my once previously poly girlfriend. What a deplorable sadness.

If you don't like your body, is there anything preventing you from changing it? If not, go for it! Change what you don't like about it. It may be hard work, but if means this much to you, it's worth it.

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No biggie, thanks for clarifying.

Maybe I'm just reading into it, but your post seemed a little snarky. Did I do something to offend you?

A) I am not married. B) She knows everything contained in this thread via our talks on same subject prior to the authoring on this thread. C) I am not looking for a 'magic bullet,' I'm really just presenting my story to others so that they can do exactly what they've done, provide some sort...

I've never cheated in my life and I don't plan on it now. I guess what I'm feeling is can I really consciously continue in this relationship in good conscience knowing that we both want different things and that I cannot be what she wants me to be? Or do I just live with it, accept that I do...

We have considered the possibility of me seeing another person, but that is not something she wants, nor is it exactly my ideal setup, either. Basically, it's not something she's comfortable with, whether it's something I'd want or not.

Thanks for all the responses. That's the thing, I am being patient. It's been well on 3 years now; she went from 'give me time' to 'I am definitely interested in only having a mono relationship.' During that 3 years, it's not like we'd been talking about it or that I was pestering her or...

Thanks. :) Life is indeed short. I try to have no regrets in all dealings.

I met my current partner (M) whilst I was in a monogamous relationship with someone else. My girlfriend at the time (O) and I were just starting to open up to the idea of polyamory and this was her first choice as a possible triad candidate. Fast forward, the triad relationship is over...

Me personally, I don't get the whole 'networking' thing, but then, I've always been a polyfidelitous kinda guy. There's just something about the triad that really speaks to me on a spiritual level.

Just tell her, I mean really, does it ultimately matter? We all die. Life is short. I'm not trying to sound like a downer (I'm actually very happily drunk right now :P), but it's true. Life is too short to trifle with insignificant things. Live life fiercely and with much fanfare...

Have you considered asking to go back to just you and S in a relationship? I mean if it isn't working out... Or is that no longer an option?