Recent content by Diverdude

Hello again, everyone. It's been a full year and some after I should have just ended it with her. Update, thus far. Things between us have ceased to be, for the most part. She did move in with Robert. She started working a dead end pet store job which she told me me she would never do again...

Well, it finally happened. We separated. She didn't feel like I was a healthy partner anymore. After realizing what she truly wanted from me, and what we needed to work on to make things better, she left. She told me several times that she didn't want to be poly. But now that she is gone...

There a lot to unpack with everyones responses so here we go. Robert has been cut off. There is no more communication for the time being. My wife has relized that involving him is not healthy for either of us albeit she struggles with wanting to contact Robert but there in lies the narcissistic...

As of right now I have not talked to my personal therapist, like I said I wasn't really getting anywhere other than what I knew I wanted from the situation. We haven't talked to our marriage counselor and a few weeks but my wife is still talking to her personal therapist and going over her ADHD...

Hello again, Since my last post, there has been a world of events to unload and I'm looking to see if anyone can chime in to give me some similar examples of how and what I can do. This is also I think a good way to take things in the right direction to get this all off my chest and move...

With everything going on, She agreed that her relationship with him wasn't healthy. She has ended it (hopfully for good) this time. Blocked his # and blocked him from social media. We had our session with our therapist yesterday, she told him two days before therapy that she wanted out of the...

I read the article about poly hell and 100% agree with what is going on in that article. I brought it to her attention yesterday and we had a conversation about the article and what her thoughts on it were. She agreed with parts of it, but I don't exactly know which. She repeatedly apologizes...

We had a conversation while she was at work yesterday. We both got a little angry and frustrated with each other. I wrote this to her, but I have not shown it to her. Should I still let her know how I feel, or wait until therapy? We both screwed up about not adding strangers to our...

Well, with a little bit of trial and tribulations. She started talking to the same guy again. I feel like I'm being cheated on. She says that I shouldn't feel that way because I am the one that her allowed her to make that connection in the first place. I'm fighting so hard to make things...

Last night, after my wife got home from work, we sat down and she talked to me about some things that she had on her mind. We officially ironed out some stuff that she had concerns about. We both agreed that he was being disrespectful to the boundaries I'd set. She also agreed that if he wasn't...

I told the guy what the parameters of the friendship were supposed to be. I found out because I had a bad feeling that he wasn't going to follow them. They message through Instagram. She left her chat open. I felt insecure and looked at their conversation. I do agree that they were more like...

My worst fears came true this morning. The other guy didn't follow our terms that we had talked about the other night and keeps trying to tell her that he loves her and how much he misses her and how much they need to be be together. He's not respecting me as her husband and I told her that she...

Finding friends outside of our normal groups has been something that I have mentioned in the past, but with work and our main hobbies we do, we don't see too many other people. I meet a ton of new people with my job, but she doesn't have that same ability. With the other guy, should I just go...

My wife and I set up to talk to a counselor yesterday at 4 but I felt like I needed to talk to somebody a little bit sooner than the scheduled meeting that we had, so I ended up talking to a counselor on Monday morning for quite some time and figured some things out. The counselor helped me...

As of this morning, we have reached out to six different poly-positive counselors in the area. Thanks, GalaGirl, for the resources. Last night, after I got home from work, we talked about where my concerns for the poly relationship came from. We figured out that I wasn't comfortable with a...