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It was an interesting conversation We talked about some communication issues and eventually segued into this. I told him I want to actually practice polyamory and want to start seeing other people, and that there is someone specific I want to go out with. He was upset that: 1. the person i...

thank you so much for your response! exactly the type of insight i'm looking for. so so very helpful.

Hello everyone! I've posted quite a few times seeking advice on a moving out of a toxic situation. A short summary is that I found myself in a relationship that was built on the idea of polyamory and openness, but for a variety of reasons (namely control issues), I wasn't able to seek other...

Hi to anyone who has read any of my other posts! Long story short, I took Red's absence because of work travel as an opportunity to get out. The decision has been incredibly difficult, but our relationship is toxic at this point and if there is anything left to salvage, living separately is the...

I'm so sorry to keep posting in this forum! There are a just a few specific things I need insight on that might be a little more private. GalaGirl, would it be OK if a messaged you? I promise not to take up much time!

I can only speak here for personal experience, but this is a similar story as to how I found myself in a polyamorous relationship/triad. Firstly, I would suggest doing research on polyamory (like reading More Than Two). There are great resources on the different norms throughout the community...

Thank you all for your advice and insight. I can't tell you how helpful it is. Each thread I start sort of comes to the same general conclusion. Sifting through the guilt that somehow all of this is my fault is proving to be challenging. I'm internalizing a lot of this and finding all these...

Thank you so much for the insight! I'm not really sure what it is. We have always identified as open -- never closed. Red has said repeatedly he isn't interested in having another partner because he has his hands full/is satisfied with the partners as is. That being said, there has been an...

Small update We didn't resume the conversation because of timing difficulties, but he said that our own sexual relationship has been suffering lately so he doesn't know how we can have a conversation about me having sex with other people. In other words, he said my lack of effort in our sexual...

This boards have been so immensely helpful! I thought I would put another situation out there. Relationship context: I am in a V with Red and Blue. Red is the hinge. Red and Blue have been together for 9 years. They began closed then opened up their relationship because Red identifies as...

Thank you for this link BTW. Great resource!!!

Does anyone have any ideas on other ways to build trust? I tried to speak with him last night and he is adamant that having access to my communications is how he is going to build trust in me. I don't understand or see how that is going to address the issue; I asked if we could work together to...

Comparing me to his other partner Red Thank you so much for your input so far. I've communicated to him that while our relationship began with the tit-for-tat communication method, the further I get into it the less I expect that from him. When I first started seeing Red, I was nonmonogomous...

Short context: I'm in a V with Red and Blue. Red is the hinge, and I have been essentially monogamous to him. It has been almost 2 years since my last individual sexual experience, but Red and I often have sexual experiences with a third person or at events. The story: Recently Red met...

I'm wondering if anyone has a story or insight to share on moving out of an apartment shared with a partner (or in my case partners). I am currently in a V that began more as a triad, but a variety of things led to our relationship evolving (including scheduling, sexual preferences, an intense...