Recent content by Dop8526

You are right, I could have prevented the end of a relationship with someone who I love very much had I been more firm. I'm not going to let it happen like that again. I don't know if I had mentioned this already but it may be relevant to say that this was the first person that I dated after...

The early am phone call was only answered because I have a seven year old daughter. If there was something wrong with her I would regret it for the rest of my life for not answering it. If it were just me and my wife I definitely would not have answered that call. I've learned a lot from all the...

I appreciate everyones replies. I have a lot of thinking to do, and a lot of talking to my wife. I feel I'm at a dead end, but maybe there's still hope. I told her that calling like that wasn't OK, I was pretty mad about that one. She said she was sorry, and she knows it wasn't right. Says she...

I agree, people aren't throwaways, it's the last thing I want to do, I've never thought it was okay did you just say why we're closing it and you guys have to just go bye bye it's not fair and this is what makes it so hard to think about. On the other hand if its bound to hurt them in the long...

I'm seeing some of the points made here. It's not quite as cut and dry maybe as that. Without going into too much detail it's hard to completely isolate one from the other, she was also married with children and we met with our families for a picnic a couple of times. My wife called at 430...

These are all good and valid points. I don't disagree with any of them. There were things that could have been handled better by all parties involved, so I'm trying to learn from that and move forward more aware. Thanks.

Primaries need to check their sense of priviledge. The problem I have with this is that I don't feel like it should be okay to try to force other people to date both of you if they like one of you. They may eventually find what they are looking for, but usually couples that put rigid...

We've never said that these people had to be our friends. We always meet the people that each other see. I just feel like you can't expect a friendship from somebody just because they date your husband or wife. My secondary will talk to her if she is messaged or anything like that, and they have...

It won't be easy, but you need to at least tell him. The advice I would give you, is that you should talk to him about how you're feeling. That doesn't mean you should expect him to not see other people. But talking about it can help a lot, and as somebody who was cut out of someone's life...

TL, DR: Wife says my secondary has to talk to her and try to be her friend. There is no beef or anything between them, and she is very respectful of my wife and answers her whenever my wife messages her. How can I convince her that it's unfair to demand that she tries to be her friend. She's...