Recent content by dustbinflowers

There have been several men called James in my life. Apart from that, I seem to have a history of brilliant, creative, manic artists or musicians. Often can't look after themselves and impossible to live with ego wise, and I wonder if part of me sees the best in others and wants to nurture it...

Please don't apologise for other people's bad behaviour- anyway, it sounds like there can be bad behaviour from all sides. Set myself up on OkCupid last night and have had a couple of nice conversations with like minds, all in other countries though :) New Zealand is a small country, so it...

Type O Negative My gf's gf. :)

why do you use the online name that you use? Mine's from some lyrics in a Sex Pistols song (God Save the Queen) 'If there's no future/ How can there be sin?/ We're the flowers in the dustbin/ We're the poison in the Human machine/ We're the future, your future' It has kind of resonated since I...

. My very limited experience of dating websites makes me want to shudder. NZ sites are pretty much full of people posing with dead animals, rebounding divorcees and drunken shots in Rarotonga with five mates (I may be overly cynical). The thing I hate the most is someone who initiates...

Hi :) I've just moved back here for a job. I studied here ten years ago. Yes, it is so cold! Where abouts are you based?

. Hmm... still thinking about this. One, two or three friends with benefits, close by but not too close, or travelling often to where I am. Two or more of us entwined relationship-wise. And because this is my fantasy ideal, it would all be non hierarchical. :)

the hottest things So many things, but here are a few. Randomly meeting people who have the same nerd interests (in my case paleobotany, botany and it's crossover into weird biology- don't get me going. Actually, pm me) :) Women who use chainsaws/specialised machinery/drive trucks etc. Men...

hello from Dunedin, New Zealand Hi to all, I'm a 40ish women, bi, solo poly by inclination, although I have only found the word for it in the last year. For much of my adult life I have been very transient due to my work and have very much been a 'comet', but I have now settled (hopefully) in...