Recent content by Echo5Tango

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    Anyone in SF Bay Area?

    I'm in Napa, and looking for some friends to talk with about anything, including poly stuff.
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    Napa, CA. Friendship

    Anyone out there in the north/east SF bay area? I am male, hetero, looking for some friends that would like companionship and, in my case, able to talk about all aspects of my life. Due to my personal/professional situation, I am not "out" about being poly, so it is hard for me to find friends...
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    Advice?

    The members here have helped me already. Just to be heard provides me with significant relief. Thank you for the welcome.
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    Advice?

    I don't claim the title of expert, just safe person to talk to. When anyone in an "alternate" lifestyle comes to me from a colleague, I let the client tell me what their boundaries are. I would never presume to have an answer or make an assumption. Personally and professionally, I take the...
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    Advice?

    My wife says she is willing to talk, but she feels hurt by the relationship and can’t engage with me like that at this point. Yes, privacy and confidentiality apply, but it is more complicated than that. I am looking at the resources you provided now. Thank you for that.
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    Advice?

    Most therapists get therapy at some point, and of course confidentiality and privacy come into play, but there are some extenuating circumstances, and personal experiences that make it risky for me. When I go to therapy it is usually to gain insight into something I am feeling, not processing...
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    Advice?

    It would be nice to have a poly friendly counselor, but that is difficult as I am a therapist myself and the risk to me professionally is significant. At this time, my wife is not willing to revisit any other relationship after closing that door.
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    Advice?

    I read your signature line, so as for "alternate affection". When you find someone you are interested in and need to stay within the boundaries of your relationship, try "synchronized breathing" while in a tight hug. It feels amazing.
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    Advice?

    WOW. that was a perfect summation. I think that is the first time I have ever felt seen or heard since this all kicked off. From my eyes and perspective, you hit the nail on the head. THANK YOU!
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    Advice?

    My wife and I were asked to join a poly couple. We did, but things got messy at just over a year. Maybe my understanding was not quite right about what all of this is, or is not. We all loved each other, I was in-love with my secondary partner, but always kept loyalty to my wife. As things...
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