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    How does polyamory give what you need?

    What if polyamory is just a means to an end? A specific strategy to meet underlying needs? I understand polyamory can be an orientation, or a way of being, and not "just" a lifestyle choice. I know it is for me. Yet I have chosen to be in a monogamous relationship because I have found...
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    What polyamory skills are great relationship skills in general?

    "If I, instead, focus on the embodied experience of responsiveness and atunement, would this give my partner the security she needs?" True - and I think she can only answer this after she has experiences this, otherwise we're talking about some abstract thing. Agreed - and this has been a...
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    What polyamory skills are great relationship skills in general?

    From the book Polysecure: Secure attachment is an embodied experience based on how we consistenly respond and attune to each other, rather than derived from a relationship structure. This one really got me thinking: I am currently in a monogamous relationship structure to provide security for...
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    What polyamory skills are great relationship skills in general?

    What I also like is the view on NRE - it is something to be enjoyed, be careful not to lose yourself in it, and it is not a solid ground to build a relationship on. How different is this from mainstream culture where infatuation is the holy grail of love.
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    What polyamory skills are great relationship skills in general?

    Although some polyamory theory, rules, skills and experiences exclusively apply to non-monagamous relationships, a lot is good advice for monogamous relationships as well. What are things you learned from polyamory that would help monagamous relationships as well? Here are some examples I find...
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