Recent content by Emmy

I didn't say that to him. Context found in preceding posts.

Check out the 'BDSM and the Law' group on Fetlife. Also NCSF (NCSF in the News on Fetlife) and REF (Relationship Equality Foundation) will probably release the results of their legal survey before too long. Are you the snarkiest person on this forum or is there someone snarkier? Just trying...

She can try, but I highly doubt I wouldn't detect it. Please don't think that I'm not maintaining hypervigilance. I worked for a major news outlet as a researcher. I know how to recover deleted texts and I've found her supposed "private" journal account. I found his secret email account, with...

I know I can't fix him. Much has happened in the past few days. I've had a few moments where I needed to check on his activities and found nothing to be concerned about. He's apologized to his mother - to my mother - to my boyfriend. He's apologized on social media. He takes full...

Interesting topic, afraid I don't have much to contribute. I think the biggest concern I would have is what would happen if the relationship broke up. There are more than a few horror stories of people losing custody when one of the parties brought up a party's salacious lifestyle in court...

Thank you, I've gained a lot just from my short time here and look forward to exchanging more with folks.

If anything, I would say he was more of a champion. Nothing seemed to bother him and he seemed happy to see me happy. He was the guy who made breakfast for all of us in the morning, helped me do all the set up for our parties, even reassured potential partners that he was glad to see me happy...

I'll tell ya, if you have my weird luck... you might try looking for the opposite of what you want. It seems when I look for a casual fling, I end up married. If I'm looking for something serious... I attract sociopaths or married-and-cheatings. I find that dating goes better when I relax...

About 14 months ago. About 20 months ago, my boyfriend was experiencing financial issues. I helped him resolve them (through evaluating and budgeting) and then while he was selling his house (which was double-mortgaged and costing him half his net income) he stayed with us while looking for a...

I do, and thank you so much for each line in your reply. It's, I feel, exactly what I needed to hear. And with that I think I'll take a break for a bit. Thank you so much.

It's fine, and I understand how you came to that idea. I worried about it myself after the affair started leaking out because of the insecurities and self-doubt that I still struggle with at times over this.

I haven't spoken to her in weeks and neither has my husband as far as I'm aware. I hope it stays that way because the more I think about it, the less I'm able to account for or excuse her behavior. I know what you mean. While I believe she exploited the situation to her benefit, I in no way...

Good questions. As far as why he felt he needed to hide this, we're still working that out. But, there are possibilities. First of all, my husband was mono when we met and has had only had casual encounters as far as I was aware (most of which I initated on his behalf). He is actually...

Thank you, and I appreciate your candid reflections on earlier rationalizations. Her behaviors would make more sense if she viewed me as competition even if I cannot fathom why she would. Actually, your post made me wonder if she was envious of my husband's apparent devotion to me, perceived as...

Well, it certainly seems like there's something there but how long it's been going on without being blunt about it is the only thing that gives me pause. I would differentiate between flirtations that seem to occur only when everyone is having drinks and behaviors when everyone is sober. I'm...