Recent content by Endicott

I'll take a bit of a dissenting view. I agree that it's not black and white, and that some people are disingenuous . But I would offer, that as a male who supports the poly practices and is committed to them .... most guys don't have the level of emotional depth women expect them to have. I...

An article by Ms. D Anapol in Psychology Today, noting the downside to poly. I thought she made some very good points. What do you think?

Welcome aboard...and I trust you enjoy SoFla. If you wish, pls look at meet up.com...there are several poly groups in our part of the state. One we r building on the ocean side, and Tampa also has an active community.. Occupied.com is very poly friendly... It may help also Take care!

Redpepper, thanks for your help.

This is one of the questions that came out of this month's polyamory social (in Broward, Florida): what fiction or non-fiction books would you recommend people to read that are poly-friendly and/or poly-relevant? I know this topic has been talked to death, but there is always something new...

I think you mis-interpreted my message. I said I won't accept that people do not have time for a courtesy. We all have time for courtesy. I'm a big boy and respect peoples choice of action. But I take issue with people saying they are too busy for common courtesy. Whether in the store...

Nice way to be... and when the time comes and you want to take the dive, you'll be well informed. Good for you!

Poly Dating With a regular date, you can't come home to your spouse and compare notes, or get tips and techniques. With a poly date, I have a coach! LOL No problem re "dickishness" You are allowed an opinion. I understand your point, but courtesy is courtesy. Online or offline. A...

Poly dating is fun! I haven’t dated in 30 yrs as a "single" man (Pru and I were always a couple...a package deal) and it has been an illuminating experience. Dating as a poly, to me, is difficult. Monog women are scared of the idea as it smacks, in their mind, of infidelity. Many can’t...

Protocol question - marriage bed Pru (my primary) and I have a protocol question and are looking for best thoughts. If Pru is away, is it bad form for me to bring a girlfriend home and have her sleep in our wedding bed? Or do I get a hotel room for the GF, risking her being offended at not...

Looking for love in the wrong place AFf (adult Friend Finder) is more orientated towards swingers (sex as an event or recreational experience vs emotional let's-build-a-life-together experience). U might find what u r looking for, but specify upfront, be patient and look for other means to find...

Thx folks for the great comments. It was very illuminating. I had an instructor as a student who would always end the class with "what did you learn" question. Not a bad habit. What did I learn? There are no consistent definition of love, as it is a subjective, internal emotion that has no...

Saudade That would be me. I am a fan of Heinlein, though I prefer Glory Road, The Moon is a Harsh Mistress and Methuselah's Children over Stranger in a Strange Land. Great work, but like Lord of the Rings, went on waay to long. Don't get me started on Starship Troopers. The movie destroyed...

Everyone....that was a great series of notes. I very much appreciate your comments and candour. You have answer some of my questions. I am quite happy!

Grounded Spirit...no measuring stick, just an honest question to understand how others feel. I grok that love is subjective since we are not telepathic and have to rely on language to exchange thoughts. I am driven by curiosity - its who I am - and am always curious as to how others view the...