Recent content by Eponine31

nycindie - That's definitely something I've become more aware of. I came into this relationship with none. It was my first relationship after my divorce. A friend mentioned expectations recently as part of the issue. It snuck up on me and maybe that changed things more than I realized. I will...

kdt26417 - I think you're exactly right that's what he wants now. I have to learn to be ok with that. nycindie - You're right too. I am heartbroken about this change much more than I realized. I'm trying to focus on me and my daughter. I'm trying to enjoy the time he and I do have together, but...

All good points. Nycindie you are right about a lot of this being my own fears. I'm getting in my own way and need to get out of my head. I'm actively reading More than Two and doing some exercises in there. I'm working on a daily relationship gratitude journal and contracting any negative...

Yes, I'm back again already with more questions and needing support. It's not as big as the last two though. My partner of almost 2 years recently began his first intimate relationship with another. A rough transition, because we'd been sexually monogamous until then. Well, now he's got multiple...

Thanks! I really appreciate all of your support. He and I did a lot of talking and sexy time. It helped to get back into the norm and see that we are ok and it didn't change anything about us. In fact, it may have improved it in one aspect already in the bedroom getting new ideas(but I won't...

Hey everyone. My partner started dating someone very recently and they moved very quickly to sex. I knew it was a possibility, but I didn't expect it would happen after the second date. We've had a lot of talks this week. Many emotional ones and I've been talking to a poly friend plus doing my...

Update: We had a good talk tonight. We talked about some of the broken places and we're working on refocusing on the things we enjoy about our relationship. We're both definitely wanting to be poly. I'm working on some of my expectations and working to not hold him to mine and remembering I want...

I feel like he does try to understand, but he has no children so I think that makes it harder. I have a 4 year old and it's not like having a teenager for a single mom. Dating is hard enough without adding that. We started off seeing eachother frequently every other week, because I had joint...

The more I can talk things out the more helpful it is. Thanks for the clips. I love Brene Brown's work so I actually knew that one. So, one thing I'm realizing through all my analyzing and theorizing is that monogamy still doesn't make sense to me in any shape or form. That was oen of many...

I've been reading different articles on here and one quote stands out the most to me. Make decisions out of love and not fear. I see my fears have taken over. Fears of losing him, fears of upsetting him, fears that if he has sex with someone else I won't be able to be physical with him again...

My partner and I began seeing eachother almost 2 years ago. We went into the relationship agreeing that we would explore poly together. We've built some great communication and a solid foundation for a primary relationship. Well, now it's getting real. He met someone recently and it's moving...